I found this thread yesterday morning somewhere way back in the archives and read the whole thing. I thought about bumping it. I guess I didn't need to! I think it's totally necessary for us older women to post what works for us because the men simply have no answers for us.
Another good read is to find Mary Titus' comments around the web on intermittent fasting. I find IF to be a slightly easier way to calorie count because I can go longer without eating more easily than I can restrain myself when there's something good on my plate. Plus I think that IF does something to me on an endocrine level that is healing. Might not work for everyone but so far it's a tool I'm enjoying at a minimal level (like once a week unless you count not eating lunch each day as IF, which I don't.)
Female, 5'3", 50, Max squat: 202.5lbs. Max deadlift: 225 x 3.