I also agree he needs a bit of extra help right now, try to stick out today (can you ring him from work?) so you can be there with him tomorrow.
However, either your true opinion or your tone of voice implied that *all* women would do better being housewife than "fighting through the corporate structure". I know women born to be mothers, and that's fine. I also know women who couldn't think of anything worse, and for some reason society - with "advice" like yours - really shits on them. That ain't on.
I'm happy I introduced "sprogs" to the forum, I didn't realise it was such a British-ism
I'm going to call him around noon when the last alarm goes off, check in, see what I can do. See if he might consider going to a counselor tomorrow, and if he feels like he needs me to go with him. Whatever I do, I'm trying really hard not to say or do anything or ask anything of him that might make me feel more useless and depressed.
Journal on depression/anxiety
Currently trying to figure out WTF to eat (for IBS-C).
and actually, men do have the same option if their wives are willing to work and can make the same or better income. my FIL basically is a "house husband;" he does a little work from home (environmental engineer) and spends the rest of his time working on housing projects. my MIL works full-time outside of the home.
as far as the "joys of parenthood" go, sure it's really rewarding. as dull as i've found it, i still wouldn't go back and change my mind. but, the rewards are quite different. different skills are needed for staying at home. you need patience, the ability to function well emotionally on little to no sleep, and a lot of self-discipline. you don't "need" a high IQ or specialized skills to do what i do. so for those of us who gain a sense of identity from our intellects being needed, it can be a little demoralizing. and that's under ideal scenarios of a happy marriage. throw a little marital instability in there, and you can have a really difficult situation for a woman to be in.
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In general, I think there is a bit of a dichotomy on this forum. Everyone is quite certain than modern grains, soy, seed oils etc. are all against our natures as human beings, and we should all get outside and play and hunt more. Fine, I agree. But almost no one see that this is likely to go rather further. The weird discussion about primal birth control. And you get people complaining that eating like this *increases* their sex drive (it does).
Nature: We are *in* nature now. Well fed healthy humans, with plentiful meat, animal fats and nutritious veg, will inevitable want to have more children than before. This is part of who we are as animals, and is an evolutionary response to plenty. This is going to mean some large families, and that's fine, its a good thing. And yes, for well fed happily married women in their twenties and thirties, avoiding having children is likely to have negative consequences. Inevitably.
Believe me, the corporate world is not all its cracked up to be. There is nothing special about having a job. I don't really think anyone should be working in front of a computer doing repetitive, boring and irrelevant things all day, just because its a "job". I am actively trying to make myself independent, and I am not going to recommend to to people who have perfectly valid alternatives that would be much more fun that they stick it out just because that's what society says is "right" at the moment.
Degrees, qualifications, jobs, are all ultimately meaningless. What country you live in is meaningless too, along with ludicrous tax laws. Other things, like good food, happiness, family and children are not meaningless at all, and one can make a huge difference to ones overall pleasure in life by recognising this.
you're also taking "primal" a little too far. maybe you should stop driving and using technology.
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