Sex, I figured it out page 12

[NourishedEm]

Well... it's true. Men have to work for it, women just have to allow it to happen. lol

Really? That's not how it works in my relationship. I just put the moves on my fella and was told I have to wait till tomorrow night and I'm not allowed any self-fulfillment in the meantime.

I'm thinking about lying to him on that one

[Grumpycakes]

Really? That's not how it works in my relationship. I just put the moves on my fella and was told I have to wait till tomorrow night and I'm not allowed any self-fulfillment in the meantime.

I'm thinking about lying to him on that one

This thread has banished all doubt in my mind about committed relationships destroying people's sex lives.

[NourishedEm]

This thread has banished all doubt in my mind about committed relationships destroying people's sex lives.

Like anything, it depends on the situation. When I was married, I could go months with nothing, I kid you not. My ex was/is a hopeless pot-head and is one of the few people I know who gets turned off sex when stoned. My current relationship is much better on that front, although I still seem to be the one chasing it more often than not.

[cillakat]

Like anything, it depends on the situation. When I was married, I could go months with nothing, I kid you not. My ex was/is a hopeless pot-head and is one of the few people I know who gets turned off sex when stoned. My current relationship is much better on that front, although I still seem to be the one chasing it more often than not.

Ahh. I thought we were talking about sex. Not relationships.

[canadianwoman]

Like anything, it depends on the situation. When I was married, I could go months with nothing, I kid you not. My ex was/is a hopeless pot-head and is one of the few people I know who gets turned off sex when stoned. My current relationship is much better on that front, although I still seem to be the one chasing it more often than not.

In my last relationship I got accused of being *needy* for wanting to see him once a week so we could have sex. (He lived an hour and a half away from me. He drove. I did not because I didn't know how to drive at that time)
Anyway since he had to work all week I figured that him only seeing me once a week (on the weekend...Friday night to Sunday morning) was a fair compromise. Apparently, for him, it wasn't.
I tell you, if I didn't have 2 kids who would *blab* I would have set up something with someone else through the week just to get *my needs* looked after.

[canadianwoman]

Ahh. I thought we were talking about sex. Not relationships.

My last relationship was a FWB relationship so they were one and the same....in my opinion.

[NourishedEm]

Ahh. I thought we were talking about sex. Not relationships.

I was talking about sex in relationships. Seems to be the kind people have most I would have thought.

[Grumpycakes]

In my last relationship I got accused of being *needy* for wanting to see him once a week so we could have sex. (He lived an hour and a half away from me. He drove. I did not because I didn't know how to drive at that time)
Anyway since he had to work all week I figured that him only seeing me once a week (on the weekend...Friday night to Sunday morning) was a fair compromise. Apparently, for him, it wasn't.
I tell you, if I didn't have 2 kids who would *blab* I would have set up something with someone else through the week just to get *my needs* looked after.

Sex or no sex, that much driving every week sucks ass.

[NourishedEm]

In my last relationship I got accused of being *needy* for wanting to see him once a week so we could have sex.

Once a week.... Needy? Holy crap!

You know, the more I talk to women about this stuff, the less I believe in the old stereotype of the woman feigning a heaache to her desperate husband to get out of having sex. Maybe it's the women I hang around with, either online or in real life, but it really seems to be weighted the other way for the most part.

What up with that?!

[canadianwoman]

Sex or no sex, that much driving every week sucks ass.

Well, it was either him here with me and my kids in a 3 bedroom townhouse for the weekend or me getting a sitter and taking a bus to his parent's place (where he lived in his early 30's) so we could have sex in his parent's house.

What would you have preferred? LOL.