Plateaued/stalled? or unnatural expectations?
Reading the forum, I notice a lot of people (especially us ladies) complaining of getting to a certain weight and stalling, or failing to even begin losing weight. And what I notice is that a lot of the time, if the person is actually following their plan faithfully (and the stall is not about obliviousness to the caloric or carb intake that is really going on), that they are actually at a very healthy weight... But perhaps not a fashionable weight.
Fashions change over time and what is perfect and natural for my body might happily fit with the current phase, or I might not be so lucky. For example, when Sarah Barnhardt was coming up in Paris in the late 1800s, she was ridiculed and considered almost freakish for her thinness - but that thinness is now considered a requirement if you want to work in entertainment today. At that time, a busty and robust figure was considered most desirable, so women at that time who were naturally skinny must have been the ones suffering and obsessing about changing their bodies to fit the fashion.
So my point is, perhaps it is not a stall or a plateau, perhaps it is the body saying: "now I am at a perfectly healthy weight. Now I am at a natural weight. This is what I weigh when I am fed optimally. This is where I am at my best." Perhaps he/she would actually have to compromise their health and eat poorly and suffer energetically to be slimmer and reach their 'ideal'. I know for myself that the times in my life that I saw that perfect number on the scale, I was not healthy - physically or emotionally/psychologically.
Luckily, as someone mentioned in a post called "Feeling sexy?" (or something like that), this way of eating, for me, makes me feel so much better about myself, regardless of weight. I feel so much more connected to my body, so much more "in" my body. I feel healthy and strong and calm, and that makes me feel attractive and sexy - much more than I did when I saw that 'perfect' number on the scale but was weak, cranky, and terrified that tomorrow I might lose my claw-like grip on my will-power and inhale very morsel of food that crossed my path. I am at a healthy weight for my body-type; I am a medium height and build and I wear medium-to-small-sized clothes. My body is in proportion, and people regularly compliment my looks. So why do I feel I need to lose 15 lbs?
I think what we all want is to feel happy, content, at peace with ourselves. If we have it in our minds that we will feel that way when, and only when, we look a certain way or reach a certain weight, we might miss out on the opportunity to cut to the good part and just feel happy, content, and at peace with ourselves right now.
This it totally a pep talk for myself, by the way thanks for listening!
~ i've tried every diet there is, but have always felt best when i did my own version of low-carb, one that turns out to be very much like PB. no one i know eats like this so i'm very happy to have found this site and some like-minded folks.
~ i'm 5'6'' and my (re)start weight, as of february 1, 2011, was 149 lbs (size 6/8)
~ february 14th, i'm 145 and already feeling more comfortable in my clothes and skin!