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    How to tell Mom "no thank you"?

    Bless my mom's heart, she baked the family a loaf of bread (to add to the 'ah' moment, she is legally blind w/macular degeneration).

    I know it was done out of love but I'm afraid if I don't put a stop to it now, she will continue to make us bread (which I don't want my family to eat).

    Does anyone have a suggestion on how to politely explain to her that we're trying to go grain-free and can't have her bread? Maybe that's all i have to say... But the truth is I do allow my DD to bake our bread but it is using soaked flour, the WAPF way.

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    I wouldn't tell your mom not to do that. Allow her to enjoy her baking, tell her it's delicious, but give it to someone who does eat it. If my mom were still alive and she baked me a loaf of bread, that is what I would do.
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    I don't have advice, only sympathy. My dad has been making BUCKETS of applesauce for my sister and I for years....ever since my mom died. I thank him for it, and genuinely appreciate the gesture, bu I honestly throw it all away. I feel bad doing it, but I don't eat it. It is a nice activity for him, makes him less lonely for my mom, and he feels like he is doing something nice for his kids. He is not in great health and has some dementia.

    Anyway - hopefully you can find a better solution then we have.....

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    Surely there is someone you know who would appreciate applesauce? I wouldnt throw it away!!!

    And I would do the same, take the bread and regift it. Unless you think it is unsafe or too expensive for her to be making bread.
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    The way I'd go after it:
    Take a taste/ slice. Y'know because she DID put all that effort and love into it. Next time I talk to Mom-
    "Mom, that bread was wonderful. I love that you went through so much effort to make us something homemade even though you didn't have to. We appreciate it, but we generally don't do well with grains. I can show you/ bake with you several breads that don't have grain, if you want. They're actually pretty tasty." And proceed to show/ make a day of the various PB friendly "breads".
    Then again, my family's.... odd.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jammies View Post
    I don't have advice, only sympathy. My dad has been making BUCKETS of applesauce for my sister and I for years....ever since my mom died. I thank him for it, and genuinely appreciate the gesture, bu I honestly throw it all away. I feel bad doing it, but I don't eat it. It is a nice activity for him, makes him less lonely for my mom, and he feels like he is doing something nice for his kids. He is not in great health and has some dementia.

    Anyway - hopefully you can find a better solution then we have.....
    Jammies, give it to someone who would eat it instead of throwing it out. I'm sure you could find someone who would eat it. I hate seeing old people sad and food go to waste, no matter how you look at it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by naiadknight View Post
    The way I'd go after it:
    Take a taste/ slice. Y'know because she DID put all that effort and love into it. Next time I talk to Mom-
    "Mom, that bread was wonderful. I love that you went through so much effort to make us something homemade even though you didn't have to. We appreciate it, but we generally don't do well with grains. I can show you/ bake with you several breads that don't have grain, if you want. They're actually pretty tasty." And proceed to show/ make a day of the various PB friendly "breads".
    Then again, my family's.... odd.
    If I did that, my mom would have beaten my ass. Even though I will admit that I don't do well with grains, giving up homemade bread would kill me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by geostump View Post
    Jammies, give it to someone who would eat it instead of throwing it out. I'm sure you could find someone who would eat it. I hate seeing old people sad and food go to waste, no matter how you look at it.
    I would give it away, but I am a little afraid to. He is not always very good about keeping things clean anymore and doesn't always refrigerate things that should be. He has never gotten sick from his food, but I am sooooo afraid someone will give it to their kids and then get sick. Maybe I am being overly paranoid about this?

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    I honestly don't know that I'd turn down anything homemade by Mom. I'd wonder who the hell had killed and replaced Mom, because they were doing a spectacularly bad job. My mother doesn't do ANYTHING completely from scratch. Ever. Even her chciken n' dumplins', homemade, has bouillion cubes abd tube o' biscuit dough.
    I've made that offer with my grandfather, though, (the family baker) and we're meeting up for a day of PB baking next time I'm down there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jammies View Post
    I would give it away, but I am a little afraid to. He is not always very good about keeping things clean anymore and doesn't always refrigerate things that should be. He has never gotten sick from his food, but I am sooooo afraid someone will give it to their kids and then get sick. Maybe I am being overly paranoid about this?
    Oh,well that is a different story. Nobody needs ecolisauce
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