Stories from people who have been overweight all their life?
I am just looking for some encouraging stories. I have read a lot of posts on the forum and I noticed it seems like a lot of people went from lean to leaner (is that a word?) or were normal thin people until they got older then were overweight and lost their weight... can I get some words of wisdom from people who have been overweight all of their lives (like were always the chubby kid/fat teenager/etc) who have found success with eating primal/PB?
I've been overweight since I was about 8 years old and am trying to convince myself that this isn't my lot in life. I want to be 'cut' and lean and all that.. but sometimes I just feel like I lost the genetic/metabolism/lucky lottery. I am still trying very hard to follow PB and adapt my life to it - its just such a struggle to lose the weight and keep high spirits sometimes when all I have ever been is overweight and trying hard to lose it. I hate to think that people look at me and think "put down the twinkie" when all I eat is organic/fresh/healthy, just frustrating sometimes :P
Thanks so much in advance,
I was always the chubby kid. Lovehandles, pudgy belly and man boobs were my lot in life. I decided to do something about it when I got to be 280lbs. I started chronic cardio and changed my diet. I lost a lot of weight this way but was killing myself to do it. I found the PB and got leaner then I ever thought I could. I have lost a total of 100lbs and still losing in ~2 years. The last year has been slow for weight loss but big for body recomposition. I am maintaing my weight but losing inches. You need to have patience. It will take a few years to reverse the damage you have done to your body. I know after all this time I am finally starting to see the 6-pack which I have never seen in my entire life. The love handles are finally starting to melt off too. With the PB I have seen the largest gains with the lowest effort.
Eating this way (first strict Atkins low-carb, staying in ketosis with very little of the processed crap - so it's not that different from Primal, and now Primal) is the ONLY thing that has ever worked for me. Every time I try to go back to more of a conventional way of eating it eventually bites me in the ass (which grows bigger!).
I was a little chubby as a kid, more chubby as a teenager, and got into the truly obese range as a young adult, till I found myself at 352 lbs at age 32. I dropped 130 lbs on Atkins (plus moderate exercise), then I loosened up and eventually found myself back to a more conventional way of eating, with all the cravings and binges that it triggers. After being down as low as 220, I've bounced around in the 240-270 range for a few years. For me, having strict rules about what I do and don't eat works best for me. I'm able to tolerate minor indulgences, but they have to be few and far between and only after I've been on a consistent streak of eating Primal.
I was around 265 last summer and dropped 20 lbs between July and October eating almost exclusively Primal; then I injured myself and turned to my comfort foods and put most of that weight back on. Re-primalized at the beginning of January and I'm down about 11 lbs now. I've also worked with a personal trainer for about 2 years doing Primal-type workouts and he's helped me to reshape my fitness.
I'm over the idea that I'll ever be skinny, and I doubt that I'll ever be "lean" or "cut." My body frame is such that I'm always going to be a solidly built person, but I know I have a lot more potential to be stronger and healthier and lighter and that's my goal. As long as my body allows me to do all the things I want to do and achieve all of my potential ... I'm cool with not being a skinny little thing.
So we lifetime fatties are here. I have no idea what it's like to be skinny; never been there.
Last edited by ennasirk; 02-03-2011 at 12:58 PM.
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Thanks so much for your story, that's an amazing loss and quite the inspiration!! It must be like.. reinventing yourself a little bit huh?
Being a fat kid was so hard. I'm afraid thats one thing that I might never be able to 'lose'.. the stuff people said to me when I was growing up... even parents were hard on me .. the tough love. I don't know if you got picked on as a child/teenager - if you did, Have you managed to get those things out of your head? I think because it was SUCH an impressionable time that the insults/comments/taunts are some how ingrained in my psyche. :P
i've been overweight for as long as i can remember...always a bit rounder than the other kids i interacted with. in my pre-teen years i didn't really notice it at all, though photos have proved it true. but, as i got into those early teen years i started to notice a distinct difference between myself and most others. i wasn't grotesquely overweight--i always played sports, swam, ran around, etc--but i was definitely a fat kid. i remember, in fact, playing basketball with a few friends and some others i didn't know all that well. it was an outdoor court, and while running after the ball with someone from the opposing team, i heard someone yell "don't let fatty get it." Now, i knew i was fatter, but that one phrase made every less obvious comment from before come to light, and every comment that came after sting a little bit more.
i was certain that my weight wasn't my fault. it was a family thing. my mom was overweight, and my sister was even fatter than i was. my brother (technically half brother) wasn't as big, so i figured 'different genes, different weight.'
all through junior high school and high school i was fat. i lost a little weight at certain times, but held a pretty firm no-taking-my-shirt-off-ever rule. then i balooned even more after high school and throughout college...despite trying to diet, exercise and all that. it wasn't until my 30th birthday when i made a real decision to get things under control.
now, people don't believe me when i say i used to weight 350. i keep pictures of the old me just for proof and as a reminder. i lost a lot of weight unhealthily with weight watchers, but being primal is really what has brought me to where i am now...my wife loses me in the grocery store. i am an entirely new person.
My pudge started in 4th or 5th grade. I got real fat after high school, prolly 3 bills but I never got on a scale. Got a job as a letter carrier and they ran 100+ pounds off of me in a year. Put it back on slowly as the assignments got easier. Was back up to 265 at 33, 52" waist (I'm only 5'6" tall), went veg/vegan for 6/8 years, got skinny at one point but felt unhealthy which is something I never had felt. I had settled in at 210-215 and given my past was happy with it but blood pressure issues started to scare me.
I've never been on a diet per se but have looked to change baseline habits. More recently I had gone the whole foods route, baking from scratch etc but the weight was not budging really. I was walking an hour a day and assumed I would have to become some sort of a gym rat, which I hate, in order to get down to a sustainable weight.
Well, mid October 2010 and Primal and wow. Just wow. 6-7 inches of my waist, I mean 2 notches on my watch band, the weight has been falling off at a consistent 1-1 1/2 #s a week without any real effort on my part. My whole body comp is changing as well. Someone commented the other day about how healthy I look and I see a coloration, like a slight tan, in Boston in the dead of winter.
There is a moral judgement imposed by others on fat people, no doubt, as if being fat is a personal failing. I have to say I was in agreement and self-judged as well. But it's all bullshit. I'm not looking at primal/paleo in the quasi-cult like way that I sometimes see here but it works and is sustainable and is delicious and what else can I say.
Lifelong fat kid chiming in here. It's both validating and embarrassing when people make a big deal out of how much weight I've lost. They always ask me, "Have you been exercising a lot??" which makes me think that they think that I was so fat because I never exercised. I can also feel some people still judge me when I snack on things during social occasions and they're not doing the same and have been thin/fit/active their whole lives. I just make sure to never let those people know how vulnerable I feel when it comes to my weight... the only people I talk to about it are my mother and my other fat kid friends, LOL. People who haven't been fat throughout childhood and adolescence really just will not understand.
It's a complement I'm sensitive about giving because the flip side is, of course, you were one fat bastard.
Originally Posted by imasin
I was 7 stone (98lb) at 7, 8 (112lb) stone at 8 , and by the time I was in my twenties I was a good 13 (182lb) stone. I then reached 17 stone (238lb) before I finally began to lose weight. I did it the CW way i'm afraid. Didn't know any better. 10 years later I was 84lb lighter. Quick eh? And what a struggle. Over the next 4 years I managed another 24lbs and I won't go into too much detail about what i had to do to manage that. Chronic cardio?? Talking 4+ hours a day EVERY day for those 4 years!!! Perfected an eating disorder that ruled my life. Made myself physically and mentally quite poorly. But, people were fascinated by my losses, I still saw a fat person in the mirror and continued to battle myself but they said "wow, how have you done it" and it felt good! I kept going - somehow. Even when people told me I was too thin!!!!!! Even when I saw myself in photos and thought "not attractive". It couldn't last, it didn't and following an injury I gained some weight back and became very depressed. A friend told me about Primal - after a few "experimental attempts," I committed to it last November.
Am I "cured" now by PB?? No of course not - well, not yet anyway. BUT I haven't purged for over 2 months (downright miraculous when you have been doing it 10 times a day), I haven't eaten as much rubbish - in fact by previous standards I haven't eaten any, I feel more "stable". My exercise is down to 2 hours 5 days a week - and its within primal limits and much more enjoyable (though I miss knowing I run 10k every day psychologically somehow)
I still see an huge blob in the mirror. I have put some weight back on - and it bothers me. People will have noticed - though they don't say anything - and that bothers me too. You never lose the fat kid in my opinion. I know I could easily be 17 stone again - by the summer I reckon. I am a fat storing machine!!! (When I broke some ribs and really COULD NOT exercise - I gained 14lbs...... in 14 days. Without even trying!!!!!)
BUT, my past makes me who I am, the bits I value as well as the myriad of things I don't. I am me. I sometimes quite like me. I am never going to look in the mirror and like what I see - but I am working on tolerating it. Meanwhile I am also working on nourishing myself, getting slim healthily if I can.
I don't even know if this is an answer to your post. It feels a bit rambling to me. Theres a lot of "stuff" tied up in my answer. I hope its interesting for you at some level.
There are a LOT of people on here battling weight. Some have a lot to lose, others less. Some of us may seem to be in the "lean and trying to get leaner" bracket - but let me tell you, we may still have the fat mentality. The fat kid inside.
I hope Primal proves to be what you are looking for. I'm "sold" that its the healthy way to eat for life. I wish you success!