zoebird, what you said about differentiating between pathological and "having large cultural issues" about sex is interesting. i don't know if this is where you were going, but attitudes regarding sex are almost purely cultural. granted, we have primal/evolutionary drives, but how we *handle* those drives is cultural. for example, in societies throughout time, it was acceptable and preferred for teenage boys to become sort of lovers to respectable older men, as a sort of close bond and training in skills necessary for societal achievements. today, that sort of relationship would be detrimental for a teenage boy, but was it detrimental in that society and time? (please don't misunderstand me, i don't believe something is healthy for a person simply because it's socially expected or acceptable. rape, for example, is common and accepted in many cultures today, but it is never healthy for either party.) is it possible that certain views about sex are only culturally-specific? another example would be virginity. some cultures try to avoid "experience" before marriage to such a great degree as to perpetuate "honor" killings, while other cultures highly encourage women and men alike to gain experience and skills before partnership.