Re: Counseling. Hubby and I spent a year with a wonderful counselor and it was worth every minute and every penny. I know its costly and time consuming - but its the best investment of your time and money and you would not regret it. That being said - both partners must be in agreement that help is needed and both must be willing to make changes and adjustments for the betterment of the marriage.
P - I'm sorry you're having to go through this crap! Remember that you have done nothing wrong. Instead of saying "I'm sorry I dissapointed you" ........ say, "I'm sorry you feel dissapointed by my actions" That puts the burden of emotions on HIM where it belongs. He is asking you to step up and be the "front man" for him - to express his wishes. Thats not fair and it shows a weakness on his part. Then....... when you don't "perform" to his expectations he rushes in and takes over - and then blames you for failing him. These are things someone needs to point out to him and he needs to correct his behavior and expectations. Counseling would be a good avenue as long as he is open to seeing his own faults.