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    My husband has been pushing to get our son Kevin into a special autism program. He had met with a local psychologist and he thought they had agreed that Kevin should go to the special school she works with. We have Kevin's annual review on Thursday. I didn't want to walk in there and blindside them, so I told his teacher what we were thinking. (Let me say that I think the district is doing well with Kevin and that putting him in a special program is moving backwards. BUT I was going to back up my husband's plan and try it for a year.) Well, last night I received a call from the coordinator of elem.sp.ed. for the school district. She kindly informed me that the psychologist was not recommending the special program, but one of two programs within the district. I got to be the messenger...By the time he got home from work last night at 12:30am, he had worked himself up into an angry state. He was angry at me. He woke me up and started in on me. He said it was my fault for having told them. (Here's the thing, you cannot walk into one of these meetings 2 weeks before the end of school and drop a bomb. There has to be time to make the new plan.)
    He said, "I'm going in there Thursday loaded for bear and you'd better back me up." I told him that I would back him up even though I do not agree with the plan. He kept verbally assaulting me so I moved to the couch in the LR. 30 min later after I had fallen back into an exhausted sleep. he came out of the bedroom, turned on the LR light and said, "I'm not going to the meeting. You take care of it, sign all the papers and when our son ends up F'd up, it will be your fault." (I was kind of relieved to be honest. His confrontational attitude has made me uncomfortable many times in these meetings.)

    I am posting this so that you understand what I am dealing with. Somehow, in the last 5 years, I have ended up with an angry, bitter man who believes that everyone is out to screw him and his family. At times I feel trapped. This is especially hard because there are other men in my life who find me attractive and treat me kinder and with more respect than my husband does. It shouldn't be this way. Isn't he supposed to be my best friend?

    PS, I binged in the evening after the call because I knew what was coming. We had a music awards event. I did fine for most of the meal, but as we were leaving, I grabbed some cookies and stuffed them into my mouth. I continued eating at home until I was exhausted and fell into bed like some drunk.
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    oh dear..I wish I had words of wisdom. I am here for you though..
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    Oh, Pebbles. That's awful.

    I know your husband has good qualities, and there are reasons you love him.

    But when I hear this, I want to bite his head off. This kind of abuse is beyond the pale. If he doesn't shape up, he may well find you shipping off when you can. Of course, he'll take it as one more incidence of the world and his wife out to get him. I had been hoping that the new job would lead to some mood lightening for him. Seems not. He's being a big poo-poo-head.

    Sorry about the binge. I know you don't want to hurt yourself with bingeing. I guess it is better than what he chooses: hurting someone else. Remember that your kids need you, though, and get right back to healthiness today. You can do it!

    Sending prayers and good thoughts your way.

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    ^What she said.

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    *sighs* lovely.

    You are right. It should not be this way. Your husband really needs to figure out a better outlet for his anger (or a way to deal with it completely) or he is going to lose the best thing in his life.

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    Paula...... has your husbands behavior changed a LOT since 5 years ago? I hope you don't mind my probing..... how old is he? Has he had a physical with thorough blood tests recently? Often as men age their testosterone levels drop, this can cause moodiness and anger/aggression issues. It can make them apathetic and depressed as well. Have you noticed a change physically? Less muscle structure? Lower libido?

    With the stresses of your life, plus his job struggles ---- if you add a low T into the mix it could really cause some problems!

    Its always a good idea to have to good work up by a doc to see if personality changes are caused by chemical changes in our body.

    If he's like most men and doesn't see the need to go to the doctor - tell him you both need to go in just for a baseline for your age. ???

    Its worth a shot.

    Don't worry about the binge............. You're making great progress. 5 steps forward 1 step back. That's momentum!
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    Tomi, He has been on testosterone therapy for about a year for very low T. He has also been suffering from depression. He and his doc are trying not to do meds. He needs to eat better and exercise.

    Sabine, I think the new job will help his general feeling of well being, eventually. Right now it is just a stressful, brand new job.

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    I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. The best advice I can give is to be kind to yourself - love yourself and keep your body healthy. Sometimes that's about all we can do until the other person gets their stuff together.
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    Don't expect issues to go away quickly. Instead, just follow the plan and see how things play out.
    Decide on an exercise plan you can/will do consistently during the 30-60 days and then do it.

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    Just some extra thoughts for the low T situation.

    Regarding the other men, well the grass is always greener.

    Regarding this one, if this is all due to low T then obviously this shit isnt really him and it needs to get fixed ASAP. If he wont do what it takes to get it taken care of (I would like to suggest you communicate with his doctor) well then he needs the "honestly I cant live like this" conversation. Knowing if you do that he may take you up on it.

    If it is a medical issue then it is much the same as if he had any other illness and he needs you to help him to the cure.
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