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    I am more in the "accept it" camp. Of course I have not intention of ever wearing a bikini so what the skin looks like on my stomach is just not important. And since I wear the long skirts (and always have) the part of my legs with vericose veins doesn't show. And of course, I have not had the type of issues that you have regarding the swelling. Basically I am a wimp and would not go through much pain for beauty! But to reduce pain, you betcha.
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    Actually, the varicose vein surgery serves two purposes. There has to be a health reason, pain etc. for insurance to pay. I'm on my feet all day and sometimes my legs just kill me. Is vanity involved, absolutely

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    I understand the "nice" being misconstrued as "interested". A neighbor has been bringing me things-- apples, grapes, tomatoes, etc. I am always nice, polite, thankful. A few weeks ago when he brought more apples I politely thanked him and we chatted for a few minutes. I was completely caught off guard when he said, You could invite a nice neighbor in. I'd like to try the wine you drink. (He had asked if I drank and I said I enjoy wine. He hadn't heard of the wine I like.)

    I've been legally and permanently separated for almost 10 years. However, I have NO interest in dating a neighbor and definitely not this man. When I told my daughter about it she said, "Mom, it's because you are always nice. You need to be colder."

    The neighbor has come by since. I thank him for the things he brings and say I need to get back to xyz.

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    OMG, I don't know what I would have done in that situation.

    My husband and my personal trainer at my gym have been trying to teach me about the ways of men. This should be ridiculous and unnecessary as I am in my 40's, but I have been with my husband since I was 23. I just don't know how to deal with this new me and the attention I am getting. My trainer tells me to remember that men are dogs and always on the lookout. My husband tells me I am like Pollyanna, looking at the world through rose colored glasses. In this case he may be right. I always try to be nice to people as I was raised to be. I am also naturally gregarious. Worse yet, on Primal my personality is downright bubbly. I need to practice my more serious demeanor, at least for those times I am not with family or friends.

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    but who wants to go through life acting like a bitch? really, it seems that's the only option left: either be nice or be a bitch. there have been times that i've had *that* feeling that someone was misconstruing my meaning, and i had to be a little cold. i hate doing that.

    marcadav- how awkward. what did you do?

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    It's so funny to hear your stories as they sound so similar to some of mine. I will talk to guys and be friendly and only after do I hear my friend's voice in my mind saying "you know he probably thought you were hitting on him"! I had a guy help me with my groceries in a parking lot recently - he was really friendly. Afterwards, I realized he was probably hitting on me but didn't pull the trigger. I was grateful to not have that freaked out feeling but realize that he may have been interested. The place this always seems wierd to me is with friend's husbands. One of the Moms in our playgroup has a hotty fireman hubby who's a really nice guy - easy to talk to. I bet he gets hit on a lot. I would hate to have to start acting cold to people to not have guys get the wrong idea or worse, ruin a friendship over some silly misunderstanding.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Saoirse View Post
    marcadav- how awkward. what did you do?
    I told him I was in the middle of something and needed to get back to it. Since then I have either gone to the door with cell phone in hand or not answered the door. My hope is-- when the growing season is over, he wont have any reason to come over.

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    oh, hot fireman? um..er...what was i saying? i feel comfortable around most of my friends' husbands but one friend's husband is in the air force, is the leader of the pack in their fitness clubs, and is quite a sweetie. he knows my husband isn't home, and has made it clear to me that if i need any handyman stuff done at home to just call him. apparently he does that for wives of deployed men, and reasoned that my husband is deployed in a sort of way. anyway, yes, i have a little crush. and no, i'm not going to take him up on that offer any more than i absolutely have to, even though my gutters need to be cleaned (which wouldn't be a problem, but i feel uncomfortable being on top of a ladder with my little ones running around at my feet).

    "help" in parking lots is a little freaky, i would always refuse, hands down. think of the vulnerable position you're in: you're probably carrying a child and monitoring another. you have your keys ready, and he's expecting to be in your little personal bubble because he has to put your groceries in your car. sounds like a great opportunity for a predator.
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    Yeah - I'm always hyper aware when my son is with me but I was alone this day, lots of people were around and this parking lot has a definite slope to it so he just held the cart on the other side while I unloaded. I had a bunch of watermelons in the cart (my chicken and turkeys loved them) and he wasn't creepy in any way. I am the very capable type and normally brush off offers for help, but he was really just a nice guy. Maybe just an openly friendly person like we describe ourselves who has a great home life and not out shopping for more. I know - who am I kidding, right?

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    who knows, apparently he was just being helpful. i just try to be aware of that sort of thing because i'm told that i tend toward naivety/innocence (though i think that's just the impression given by my face and blond hair).

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