Well, I don't think I'm a textbook binger - but I certainly have used food for comfort. So I guess I can sort of relate. I've eaten 1/2 a pack of oreo's or a full cup of peanut butter before I realize how much I've eaten. Thankfully I haven't done either of those in the past year.
I agree that the marriage could benefit from a 3rd party to help with the communication and with getting things moving on a path that you are both walking - preferrably hand in hand. There are counselors who work on a sliding scale - depends on income and how much you can afford. Some pastors councel for free or for a small fee - but they aren't always schooled in effective counseling techniques.
Hubby and I went through 11 months of bi-weekly 1.5 hour sessions to work through our issues that were all based on his lack of fathering skills. Daddy skills he had in truck-loads! Fathering skills were nowhere to be found. Hence my using food for comfort when the house was being run by his daughters. You don't gain 75 pounds in 5 years over nothing!
I think getting the emotionally troubles worked on will do great things in helping you learn to find comfort or stress relief in something besides food. Something healthier. Just look how far you've come already in those 25 days of clean healthy eating! You're gonna conquer this - we ALL are! We're being pro-active - we're working on our issues - we're helping each other. I've gained SOOO much from all the people on this forum! Its the first thing I do every morning!