Thanks for sharing. I do not see my husband's actions as abusive. He truly wants what is best for Billy, but has an abrasive way of putting things. We talked again about the com college to 4yr school option. I can see his point and the cc in our town has both degree programs that Billy is interested in. I think that once B graduates, and has a definite plan, things will ease up between them.
As for what he said to me, well it is technically true and I was baiting him. The truth is, that he needs to make drastic health changes.
Billy also needs to take charge of his future a little. He, like many teens, would play computer games all day and do nothing else, if we let him.