To answer Tomi's question, My MIL is Critical, Demanding and Controlling. Husband also has a short fuse and is slow to forgive like his Dad. (Funny thing, I love them both, but I did not grow up with them.) My husband was the son that did not go to college. He got his Associates and RN at age 50. He is not really a bad guy. I think being the "failure" in his family for so long was incredibly painful. He never learned to be merciful about other people's faults. He thinks the hard line approach works.
Here is an excerpt from an email he sent me this morning...
"I'm just done with his lying and blowing off responsibility, he is
either going to end up in the military or living on his own or with
room mates and not getting anywhere in life, it scares me and the
problem is that I can't get my own life going because I'm so consumed
Funny Thing...My husband spent time in the Navy after HS.