The Bedrock Journal - ( Pebbles67) page 362

[namelesswonder]

Even as a teen, I could appreciate (and still do) Aragorn's attractiveness. Who doesn't love a rugged woodsman/hunter figure? I think Aragorn would be my go-to name haha.

I appreciate the honesty in that post! Despite my mostly open journal entries about anything and everything, I don't share my own sex issues much. I haven't even talked about it in therapy. It's low on the totem pole for me right now. Boyfriend is kind of like your hubby, but I think he's gotten over being hurt if I'm just not in the mood because it's happened so much =\

[Sabine]

He was so insulted that I would use Viggo without him. Apparently he sees this as a betrayal or a sign that I don't need him? .[/B]

More frank talk ahead:

Interesting. Honey and I have sex quite often, but he takes care of himself as well, and vice versa. For us it has always just been an issue of needs not meshing with time constraints, or wanting the different experience, not a question of spouse-need or betrayal. Does he feel this way about his own activities, or it because you are the woman? He may be one of the few who never does it alone, but although I've heard they exist, I've never seen an example.

No offense. It is nice to have a discussion about grown up things without people rolling their eyes at you.

[canio6]

I'll never be able to watch Lord of the Rings again. Kidding P.

Though I have to say, not having sex really simplifies things in a marriage. If my wife and I want to make up, we actually have to communicate. It works out surprisingly well.

[naiadknight]

With Geek and I, sex doesn't enter the equation for anything other than when we're feeling randy. There's no such thing as angry sex, make up sex, or any of that jazz. It's always "I want you" sex. If we're having problems, neither of us can even get going until the problem is resolved. As to solo acts, I firmly believe in "don't ask, don't tell." If he does, I don't know about it, and I'm reasonably certain he knows nothing of my solo acts. We've talked about it, briefly, and it just falls into "don't know, don't care."

[Pebbles67]

When I was very heavy and not very happy with myself or him, we had sex on average 1 x per week, which doesn't seem too bad except that he could sense that I wasn't "into" it. I know he was taking care of himself a lot at that time because I would find towels he left around. I've often wondered if he left the evidence on purpose. Now he is either well satisfied or just remembers to put the towels in the hamper. I don't care if he takes care of himself and he doesn't care if I do. I think this is about Viggo.

[Pebbles67]

I'll never be able to watch Lord of the Rings again. Kidding P.

I was most worried about your reaction and that of the rest of the male readers.

[canio6]

I was most worried about your reaction and that of the rest of the male readers.

Nah, it's all good P. If you can't make yourself 'happy', what's the point of life?

[Pebbles67]

Nah, it's all good P. If you can't make yourself 'happy', what's the point of life?

Well, I read that it is good for stress relief, sleep issues and weight loss. So it seems kind of important.

[canio6]

Well, I read that it is good for stress relief, sleep issues and weight loss. So it seems kind of important.

Well, I seem to have found my new exercise plan. Now is this sprinting or moving slowly?

[Pebbles67]

Well, I seem to have found my new exercise plan. Now is this sprinting or moving slowly?

Both.