Sorry for the binges. I know they're frustrating. Just keep trying. Something will work one of these days.
As for hubby, I have no advice. I can't help but feel like he's feeling badly about himself with the whole job situation (is he still looking for a hospital job?). And, to see you losing weight, getting healthy, acting on stage, making the big time with movie roles, etc, might make him feel inferior in comparison to your success. It really sucks and I'm sorry. I honestly have no advice as to how to fix it. All I can offer are hugs.
(ps, how's your son doing???)