When I was VLC, I didn't eat anything veggie that wasn't leafy, and I didn't eat fruit at all. And I should go back to that as my weight loss has slowed up way more than I'd like.
Face it: You may never be able to eat "normally" again, if you are severely insulin resistant. Yes, social settings will always be tough, but you MUST stick to your guns. This is your health and your life that you're talking about. Is that worth risking to make sure someone isn't upset that you won't eat their fruitcake? It's a health issue; you MUST be firm about it - both with the pushers and with yourself.