It may be easier to focus on one factor at a time. For exampl, getting your carbs down below 50 and allowing your body to adjust to ketosis, will by itself, help you to eat in balance with your body's needs in the long term (unless you have a metabolic disorder...) Once you have become keto-adapted, you may not need to track calories--many folks find that their hunger diminishes--especially at ~ 20 net carbs.
It can take time. After 1 month of vlc, I feel like my body is still adapting. I have more energy, but occasionally I feel like my body has too much energy running through it at night, which can affect my sleep. Given that my whole metabolism is shifting, I'm not surprised!