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    Quote Originally Posted by Saoirse View Post
    hmm...this is tricky. this has been going on for years and i have tried various ways of dealing with it. sometimes we simply avoided social engagements with them, sometimes i told my kids to deal with it (because sometimes they do start complaining about every minor infraction), sometimes i've stuck up for my kids, of course we've tried directly talking to the parents...we've tried a variety of things. at times i've wondered if it was just a (long) phase, but it's becoming clear that it's not. My husband is coming home soon (from living in a different state), and he has intended to take a more prominent role in this whole equation, which i think could ultimately be more effective than anything i could do. maybe we need to put a date on it; if this behavior does not end or improve significantly by (the end of the summer?) we will need to have a (very awkward) conversation with his parents and him about the situation. if it was a straight talk about bullying, i just don't see that as going over very well. and simply saying "don't do it" won't work because i don't think he knows what he *should* do. which leads me back to the book idea, because he does like to read. if there was a way to talk to his parents and recommend a book, i would definitely take this route. but i really don't think they are into reading parenting books, and i think trying to talk about it at all is like walking in a minefield.
    Well, if it's been going on for years than I think the only things you can really do is equip and empower your kids to respond to him, or don't hang out with them. So the only really positive things you can do is prep your kids.

    It's a very tricky line. Kids do stupid and thoughtless things when they are hanging out with others, and mine are no exception. I think that ultimately it comes down to redemption. If you think that yoru kids can cope,or the boy can grow out of it, or you still have some traction with him in terms of bahaviour change, then it's probably worth explicitly demonstrating grace to your kids and persevering with the relationship.

    If he's a net negative in your family life and you don't see that changing in the foreseeable future, then it's probably best to quietly cut ties with them. I don't understand the dynamics between your family and theirs well enough to say which is the best approach.
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    Bah!! I've spent 15 minutes on this problem (erased a few times and started over), and i can't seem to find my mistake.
    DSCN0318.jpg

    (of course, by the time someone responds, i'll have found it. that's the way it always works)

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    LOL...
    I peeked earlier... then ran far far away.
    That looks like an unhappy mess to me.
    Makes me long for poetry reading/writing in Lit class.
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    hmm...definitely prefer this mess to poetry.

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    Poetry is easy once you kick rhyme scheme out the window... as all NEW/learning poets should... because otherwise they sound like they are writing for a really bad Hallmark ripoff company.

    Now the strictly metered styles... MUCH less easy to do well.
    And occasional cause for happy hair tearing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Saoirse View Post
    hmm...definitely prefer this mess to poetry.
    That takes me back. I used to really like Trig, although it's surprising how little use it is in everyday life....
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    I can't imagine needing it much. i'm told it's foundational for understanding calc, which apparently i'll use a lot if i become an engineer.

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    I think that math is elegant, but i love the "fuck it" written at the bottom. That's classic.

    For my own part, what I finally understood just last week was really how elegant this process is. I wish that our teachers had explained it as I now understand it.

    Maybe it's obvious.

    My friend's son (age 10) was set to the task of determining the volume of an orange. I thought this was an interesting project, but then my husband looked at me and said "that requires calculus."

    He then set to the task of taking the boy through the steps of determining how do discover the volume -- using the basics of geometry that the kid had.

    He then stepped him through how those basics of geometry move into trigonometry, and then how that steps gently into calculus.

    Yes, that's when I figured out how really brilliant math is.

    This boy got so excited about it, that he set out then to do an apple, which he determined was five cones with cut off bottoms plus one sphere, and when he could figure out the geometric properties of each, he could then take the step into trig (with DH's help) and then again into calculus.

    his current project is a 'basket of fruit, including the basket' where he is deducting the negative space volumes from the total volumes based on an average of what the negative space looks like in between fruit in a bowl.

    He is so far being awarded top marks, though the teacher can't figure out where he managed to step beyond the basics of geometry, because they have only started to touch on that in class. It's not because all of his calculations are correct, but because he is thinking about math in a different way.

    And his father noted that his son has *never* been so excited about any school subject. But now that he's been introduced to what calculus can tell him, he's looking into calculating as many odd objects as he can.

    Yes, I can imagine that an engineer definitely needs to know it.

    And, it sparked my interest. I liked math as a kid because of the logical progression of a given problem, but only focused on memorizing the basic formulas and how to apply the relevant factors into the problem -- you know, in order to pass exams. I never really grasped the practicality of it beyond basic maths to manage one's books, for example.

    Now, I see something organic and holistic. And I love it.

    So I'm re-teaching myself from geometry upwards, because everyone needs a hobby. LOL

    Btw, did you figure it?

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    pretty cool story. i like showing my son how some of his math work feeds into what i'm doing. of course it's becoming more and more difficult, but at least i can offer a little perspective.

    no, unfortunately i did not figure it out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zoebird View Post
    My friend's son (age 10) was set to the task of determining the volume of an orange. I thought this was an interesting project, but then my husband looked at me and said "that requires calculus."

    He then set to the task of taking the boy through the steps of determining how do discover the volume -- using the basics of geometry that the kid had.

    He then stepped him through how those basics of geometry move into trigonometry, and then how that steps gently into calculus.
    I would have put the orange into a measuring jug and measured how much water was displaced....

    Want to post what the original problem was? From what I recall most of trig was knowing several formulas and knowing how to rearrange equations.

    And really, whats a forum buddy for if not to help one solve trigonometry problems?
    Disclaimer: I eat 'meat and vegetables' ala Primal, although I don't agree with the carb curve. I like Perfect Health Diet and WAPF Lactofermentation a lot.

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