I have worked in private club kitchens all my adult life and I have managed to lose 25 pounds while I was employed at a club. Find sugar substitutes then cut the grains.
You can still cook but you are just preparing different foods. This way of life is not easy would I prefer to go eat a hot dog, have a lemon tart or eat some tortillas filled with rice and beans. You bet. Here is what I ate today, shrimp with garlic and homemade mexican salsa on a bed of spinach with butter.
One of my Oh Holy shit moments was I saw a documentary where an obese 53 year old woman was interviewed. she said a good day was making it to her outside porch of her one bedroom house. Sad? Make your choice and just try to be little better every day. Please dont try to go from having 200 to 300 carbs a day to 49 grams, this is too much of shock to the system.
Start cutting sugar or carbs and start logging all your food. Don't worry you will do great but one step at a time.