But that was my point. You may be absolutely correct about the problems with his medical treatment--or you may be completely wrong. EVERY Rx has many negative side effects, but sometimes the Rx is essential. But, IMO, the issue is that he is an ADULT, and if he wants to pursue medical treatment, that's his decision. And if your view of this angers him, then perhaps you need to let it go for a while.
Personally, if I were trying to deal with a major medical crisis and a layperson were trying to insist that I do something different, I'd be angry, too.
I don't think you can change someone who doesn't want to be changed. If you buy the food, you can make sure that whatever comes into the house is healthy — mainly for your own sake and only coincidentally for his. What he eats outside the house is his responsibility. Maybe the contrast between wholesome food at home and the crap elsewhere will make a persuasive impact on him, but don't count on it.
Originally Posted by Zanna
I'm not a lay person. I'm a RN, BSN CNE. I wouldn't be so opposed to the medical treatment option if it weren't for the horrific side effects. Have you ever been on prednisone?
Originally Posted by emmie
My neighbor was on prednisone--and he blew up like a balloon--but it saved his life. Since you're a medical professional, you know that ALL Rx have negative side effects, and a good doctor will balance need against those negatives.
As adults we need to make informed choices. For example, I had a few serious headaches about 5 years ago that after all tests were completed, my neurologist concluded were the result of some random hormonal surges. He estimated they might never occur again--or might persist. To 'avoid' them, he wanted me to take a beta blocker daily. Since I knew (from the tests) that the headaches were uncomfortable but harmless, I refused to take them. I've never had another headache.
Since you know all the problems with prednisone, it seems to me that your only role in this situation is to make sure your friend is able to make an 'informed' choice about his treatment.
I know it must be frustrating to you, but you should also be aware of the phenomenon that I've read about and seen in family members--i.e., diagnosed with a serious illness, the individual becomes passively dependent on his/her doctor and complies with all treatment without any thought or reflection.
If this is what's going on here, nothing you say or do will have any effect, other than to anger him and damage your relationship.
I appreciate everyone's input. Today is day 1 of the prednisone. I am going to hope for the best and mention to the PA the possibility of budesonide instead of prednisone, as it has fewer side effects and is just as effective at treating autoimmunity. Anyone have any good go-to AIP recipes, or any tips on maintaining the AIP in general? It is so restrictive, I'm afraid we will both tire of it quickly.
The main thing is to eat to satiation at every meal. Meats, fruits, veggies, starchy veg like tubers and winter squash and plantains, good oils like coconut,avocado, olive oil - are all your friends.
Use plenty of seasonings like leafy herbs, garlic powder, salt, black pepper - food doesn't have to taste bland, and that seems to be the mistake that a lot of people make. The Primal Blueprint cookbook on Sauces is really good.
One of my goto recipes is an easy chimichurri: 2-3 scallions, a handful of cilantro, juice of 1 lime, s&p, a pinch of cumin and garlic powder - blend together. Great on pork and beef.
Simple guacamole - an avocado, a bit of onion, some chopped cilantro, s&p; if you want a little heat you can add wasabi powder. Use jicama slices for a crunchy chip sub. Jicama also works great as a base for open faced "sandwiches".
My new favorite veg prep method is roasting them. Takes about 5 minutes to prep. Anything from zucchini to sweet potato to plantains can be chopped into pieces, tossed in avocado oil and spices, and roasted at 400 for 15-30 minutes depending on the veg. Meat can be cooked at the same time. Meals don't have to be complicated.
If you can find them, the epic bison cranberry bars are a good thing to carry around. They are the only jerky type thing that I have found that is nightshade free, and they have 16 g of protein. Its good to have something like so that you have something to turn to instead of grabbing fast food.
The thing to remember is that the most restrictive part is about 30 days, then gradually things are added back in. There are tons of resources at thepaleomom.com to help you all get started. A lot of the recipes on mda are aip friendly.
I have that PB sauce cookbook. Unfortunately, I have hardly looked at it since buying it. I've made the ketchup and like 2 other recipes from that book. I should use it more often. The AIP Cookbook by Mickey Trescott has gotten really good reviews on Amazon. I will def have to invest in that one.
I think that is my mistake: making complicated meals. I need to just go back to basics and cook simple dishes, especially on weeknight when we are both exhausted from work and don't feel like cooking.
I've tried those Epic bars, and they are delicious!
Thanks for your input!
Hum, I dumped my ex fiancé because of his refusal to start taking care of himself and address some serious issues. We were together for 7 years. So glad I did, I am now married to a guy who is open to conversation about his health, my health, our future. Good luck in whatever decision you make but don't ever feel like you don't have choices, especially in your own happiness level.
Originally Posted by sunnyskies9
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