Hello FairyRae. My son that turns 1 on July 1st. During pregnancy I ate everything except for the bacteria risk foods like soft cheeses, fast food. Still ate heaps of chocolate though!!! I've read more than once that soy is bad so I don't touch it anymore and didn't eat it during pregnancy.
A natropath friend of mine fed her girl heaps of soy as a baby (she was vegetarian) and now her baby has a soy intolllerance. It is a bean afterall, and how would cavemen have eaten beans if he could not boil water?
Since starting my boy on solids at 5.5months, he does not have cereal or any grains ( although daddy did give him some bread roll a few weeks ago wetted with poached egg). He's a solid strong very smart little (not so little at 11kg already!) boy. He eats heaps of raw fruits, steamed veggies and mashed meat and breastmilk. He has no allergies or food issues at this stage and no behavioural issues. Having said that, when I eat mainly fruit with some meat and veggies I feel calm, happy and incontroll. Add chocolate and junk food and I turn grouchy and irritable. I am sure this affects our kids too and is responsible for many tantrums and unexplained behavioural problems.
If a food needs to be processed to eat it, perhaps we shouldn't be eating it as caveman wouldn't have been able to.
I think stick to the basics of fruit meat and veg like our ancestors did and you can't go wrong.
Good luck with possible number 2 baby!!!!