I'm so sorry to hear that so many of you had rough relationships with your mothers. Did you feel like it affected how you relate to the world, and to people in your life?
It clicked with me on Friday that one of the reasons I have such commitment issues, and got involved with many neglectful guys, is because I have a really deep-seated fear of someone trying to possess me. I didn't have ownership of anything when I was growing up, and was completely controlled by her. So when I was involved with men who were very committed to me, I would get freaked and run from them, because I felt they were trying own me. The neglectful / unavailable ones were much safer.
It's kind of the cliched thing, isn't it? Nightmare mother / mother-in-law. But it's definitely not always the case. Thinking through my friends, most of them have good relationships with their mothers.
Originally Posted by Iron Fireling
My sister's relationship with my mother was even worse than mine, and she is being the most amazing mother to her two little kids, so it's definitely a chain that can be broken, if the person is conscious about it.
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