This. For some, it takes a more gradual approach to really get dialed in, and that's okay. This is not a crash diet.
I got the perfect beginning protocol for ya mate;
You say you can go 2 days VLC before busting out right? Well do VLC for 1.5 days (stop before reaching your known limit) then the rest of the week just eat healthy (no carb or calorie restricting) if you stuff up and eat something naughty don't worry about it.
Next week try go VLC for 2 days. Rest of the week eat healthy.
Week after go VLC for 3 days. The rest of the week eat healthy.
See where I'm going with this?
If you can do VLC for five days, you've probably reached the stage where your cravings are controllable and you can then dial in your cal deficit (try cycling it) easily and also dial in optimal good carb levels (these are also optimal if you cycle as well)
After this you'll be fifty pounds down
What do ya think?
Steak, eggs, potatoes - fruits, nuts, berries and forage. Coconut milk and potent herbs and spices. Tea instead of coffee now and teeny amounts of kelp daily. Let's see how this does! Not really had dairy much, and gut seems better for it.