I'm really sorry to hear about your little niece. That's terrible news. You know, at least one thing about kids being sick is that they don't get all the mental anguish that adults get. I have a friend who had skin cancer twice: once as a young kid, once in her mid twenties. She had a complete break down in her mid-twenties, whereas as a child she took it in her stride and didn't think about it. Anyway, hoping that the little one gets better! Have they given her a prognosis?
I have a theory about why we all come into this world with different issues: it's to do with everything that we have accumulated as balls of energy along our orbits, and our different issues are expressions of that energy.
Also, just wanted to say: don't be so hard on yourself for mentioning your skin! It's not remotely selfish. I'm obsessed with my appearance, but I also an altruistic, generous person. We're not impermeable to our societal influences. I'd probably be happier if I cared less about what I look like, but that's the only reason I'd prefer to be thinking about other things.
"I think the basic anti-aging diet is also the best diet for prevention and treatment of diabetes, scleroderma, and the various "connective tissue diseases." This would emphasize high protein, low unsaturated fats, low iron, and high antioxidant consumption, with a moderate or low starch consumption.
In practice, this means that a major part of the diet should be milk, cheese, eggs, shellfish, fruits and coconut oil, with vitamin E and salt as the safest supplements."
- Ray Peat