I could probably have him do that, but I think it would be really hard on him emotionally. That's the adult thing to do though, when kids are involved. I've had to bite my tongue and take the high road for years with my ex so the kids don't get stuck carrying our emotional baggage. And you're totally right, this is making me crazy. I think in a year's time, I'll be happier and wondering why I just floated along for so long.