Oh hell no. I'd take his shit dump it on the lawn and change the locks. Being an asshole with a child to "show you". Divorce is less stressful than dealing with that shit. Especially if he can't bring home a pay check! Not worth the time spent in counseling.I told him to brush his teeth and my husband started yelling at me and then was rough with the baby by holding him down and brushing his teeth to "show me" he wasn't happy.
My boss went through a wicked divorce.... sometimes you just need to spend money. She went into debt to get out in terms of losing money on a house, finding a new one, child care etc. So get his ass out, hire child care (or get some help) and roll with it.