Hi, Kieran: It's such a loaded question and there are so many variations of grey, aren't there? I don't know how old you are but you may want to consider using the term, 'ladies' as opposed to 'girls'. We are not girls, we are mature ladies and we are generally looking to be considered as an equal or important person.
Originally Posted by Kieran
It's my experience that meeting a 'nice guy' is challenging as there aren't enough of them around ....hoping you are one of those nice 'guys' or gentlemen. The fact that you are posting this and asking for advice gives me a good vibe about you.
It's not easy for men to 'get out there' and put their best foot forward and risk what is 'perceived' rejection. Always remember that 'rejection' is never really about you -- it's more about what's going on in a young lady's life that you may be unaware of (recent breakup; lesbian; recently moved; still in school and not ready for a relationship etc etc). All you can do is dress nicely (get some advice on how to dress to impress a nice lady): Get a nice haircut, be clean shaven, freshly showered, wear nice shoes and just be yourself. Put aside your fears of rejection and approach some young ladies and engage in a friendly, light conversation. Try not to focus on 'getting a date', but think about meeting some interesting ladies who may become great friends in your life. If there is one particular lady who just stands out, get to know her by asking her questions. This demonstrates your interest in her and your ability to actively listen. Generally, young ladies want to know that you are interested in them as people -- over and above their bodies (wink wink, if you know what I mean).
And lastly, remember that some girls have not been raised with as many manners as you would like, and do not take their 'rudeness' as a personal affront. Just know that there are numerous fish in the pond, and you have to keep searching, digging, sorting and putting yourself out there, until you meet that one special lady. And also remember, that you are a unique, caring individual who is worthy of a great relationship and never settle for anyone that treats you as anything less. Get out there and embrace the ladies of this world --- because most of us are looking to meet our prince (except me -- I found mine after 18 years of being single ;-) Cheers, mate: Good luck on your adventure! /Lu
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