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    I think you handled it the right way. You sent her a polite message, that I think ended things well. It will be hard if you run into her again, though. Do you know her usual CF schedule? If so you can probably avoid her that way. However, I'd consider going somewhere else (if possible... personally there's only one CF gym in the vicinity of where I live and I'm on a contract, but it may be different for you).

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    whoa no you can't let some girl chase you out of your gym. own it and be confident. the sight of you working out should be like rubbing a dog's nose in poop when they have an accident indoors to her

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    Not sure if this has been covered, but here's my 2 cents.

    You can center your life on many different things. Some are self-centered, friends-centered, school-centered, workaholics, religion-centered, bf/gf-centered, etc. The best thing to be is principle-centered. If you live on principles, all those things will come to you. Hard work, altruism, honesty, etc brings success, friends, and happiness.

    In contrast, you sound like you're living a bf/gf-centered life. When shit happens there, your day is ruined. If it's permanent, your whole life turns to crap. You have to not put all your eggs in one basket.

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    Why not start- right now -to think of and feel about your ex as you will think of and feel about them in 20 years?

    So take some time for yourself. Chances are you're withdrawn and not going out to see people anyway. So go off by yourself, turn off all your telephones and just give yourself some time alone. Turn off the TV.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wiltondeportes View Post
    Not sure if this has been covered, but here's my 2 cents.

    You can center your life on many different things. Some are self-centered, friends-centered, school-centered, workaholics, religion-centered, bf/gf-centered, etc. The best thing to be is principle-centered. If you live on principles, all those things will come to you. Hard work, altruism, honesty, etc brings success, friends, and happiness.

    In contrast, you sound like you're living a bf/gf-centered life. When shit happens there, your day is ruined. If it's permanent, your whole life turns to crap. You have to not put all your eggs in one basket.
    Carnegie said to put all your eggs in one basket and guard it like hell!
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    was there a long-distance component to this relationship?

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    no.

    She responded to my text with

    "Thanks, TFC that means a lot. I hope you are doing well too. This is all very difficult and I don't want to make anything more difficult. It's hard not talking to you"
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    I went through those feelsing when my husband left me. Don't put your body through what I put mine through though. I could not eat for 2 months. I lived on about 200 calories a day that I forced into my body. I had to go to the hospital because I felt so awful. I regularly passed out in the shower, etc. I needed to lose weight but this was not the way to do it. My nails broke, my hair fell out, I looked awful and I was weak. It took months to feel strong again. I lost muscle along with fat. I sat in the dark in my room and cried. I did not sleep. I let life pass me by. What a waste! Two months gone of my life for someone who valued me so little that he walked out on me and left me in the most heartless way ever.

    I know this is probably not the best plan but I started seeing someone. It gave me something to live for (other than the obvious) and distracted me. Then I played around with some onlinie dating sites. I found someone really special. A lot of people will say you should wait awhile and mourn your loss but everyone is different. A little fun, adventure and distraction might just pull you through the hard times and get the healing started. Heck I think there is a primal dating site!

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheFastCat View Post
    no.

    She responded to my text with

    "Thanks, TFC that means a lot. I hope you are doing well too. This is all very difficult and I don't want to make anything more difficult. It's hard not talking to you"
    ffs she's dragging it out

    for your own emotional security, block her. either temporarily or permanently
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    yeah you are

    Baby if you time travel back far enough you can avoid that work because the dust won't be there. You're too pretty to be working that hard.
    lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheFastCat View Post
    Thank you for the support and advice- it's very nice and very appreciated.

    Last Monday she wrote me an email.



    I din't respond to this but posted a photo gallery on Facebook of photos of us having fun together this past summer, with a description "@Her while my heart hurts so much right now I will remember our summer together fondly. I wish you always the best; thank you for everything". Just my way of trying to let her know I accepted the situation.

    That afternoon I got a text from her:

    "I saw your facebook message and your pictures. I think matters of the heart are better left off of Facebook, so I wanted to respond to you personally- my heart hurts too and I will always remember you fondly. It was an epic summer and I hope we can talk again someday"

    I didn't respond to that.

    I need some help with this though:

    I got two texts just now from her:

    "Hi TFC - obviously you don't want to talk to me. I get it but I have your belongings and would like to return them to you, how would you like me to do this?"

    "Also, I would like to keep it as its very meaningful to me, but understand if you would like the chest back. Let me know."

    All she has of mine is a cell phone charger, a button up shirt, some socks. I want her to throw it all away I don't care about it and I don't want to see her again. Seeing her again just to reclaim worthless crap would hurt so much. Beyond that I don't even want to text her back or talk to her ever again. It would cause me a lot of pain.

    She has some toiletries at my place that I handed her when she broke with me 8 days ago, but she refused to pick up and take with her. As far as I am concerned she doesn't want them either.

    The chest she refers to is a piece of furniture I refurbished for her for her birthday in July as a surprise. You can see before/after pictures of it here: http://sdrv.ms/MYbYFO

    I don't want to look at the chest again or even think about it.
    Ask her if she wants to hook up one last time for closure kind of bfwb type deal- releive a little stress !!
    Just my thoughts

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