Perhaps we could begin a separate thread, for our tangential mini-discussion, monogamy & such, to continue off Chick-Fil-A & pro/anti gay, free speech thread. Jmho, kenn is either an adept troll for starting this thread as he did, or he's no troll but merely droll...
And it's great your hubbie is so supportive & that you're best buds as well as lovers/partners. He sounds like an awesome dude. Kudos for both of you finding & picking each other, sticking with "it" through thick & thin...
Originally Posted by cori93437
I'm not an all or nothing kinda guy. I have opinions, some based on my own experiences or others around me, some based on nothing more than ethics, knowledge or whim. the happiest, most successful couples I know are former polymorists who are now married & monogamous, having worked out all there former unresolved drama, trauma or maturity issues. Or they are unmarried couples who are monogamous, or openly & fluidly triads or even swingers some of the time. Honesty is the key, kindness too, & keeping jealousy in rein. Northern Calif is rife w/ all variations of the alternative lifestyles, some of which, are actually pretty old & traditional in ancient or current isolated societies.
Dreams are not fantasies, are they? Unless you believe this world is the dream & sleep time is the reality. Then it'd all be reversed. Fantasies are cool, so are dreams. the stuff of creative minds , childhood, dreamweavers & changemakers. It's just out of balance fantasies, like repeatedly wanting sex with someone other than your partner, not feeling free to actually act on it for real, for fear of breakup, divorce & its financial ramifications, shame (inter-personal, religious, or community based), banishment, in some facked societies, even a death sentence. I say, be open, be honest, get laid or whatever your kink is, but just keep it together.
Ownership/possession mentality is something I saw are faulty logic & not something that would ever work. It's akin to slavery, owning someone, whether its a laborer or a spouse. Partnership & co-creation, thats the ticket.
Last edited by Betorq; 08-02-2012 at 07:22 AM.
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