I think this is perfect!!!
I think this is perfect!!!
1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
2. Eat to heal
3. Move to live
4. Embrace today
5. Live with intention
6. Respect my body
7. Cultivate joy
8. Find my passion
9. Meditate on peace in my soul
bakers3, You are way low for vit D. My levels came in high 20's in Feb and my doctor suggested 5000IU. I think the rule is 1000 for every 10 you want to raise your level.
I feel the same way. I do see changes in the upper body at least now. I am trying to hold on to that.I think the problem for me is that as I shrink all the proportions stay the same and all the bulges stay in the same place. They just get smaller. I swear I get shorter, too. Obviously that last one isn't true, but I do feel more like an incredibly shrinking woman than an incredibly slenderizing woman.
The body dismorphic thing is such a bugaboo. When I was gaining I would try to see if any part of me still looked okay. While I was gaining, I could fool myself pretty well that everything was still okay. Up to a point anyway. As I was losing it pleased me to see it come off. But now that I'm at some kind of stable weight, my mind sees me getting fat when maybe it's not really happening. My pants today feel looser than ever but the image in the mirror looks fatter than ever. Argh. Turn it off!
I think I am going to try 4 Hour Body prescription next. It is very close to my Supermetabolism book that saved me from going bonkers on CW. Beans in, potatoes out.
Yes, that's exactly the kind of stuff that annoys me so much. The whole condescending, settle for what you have thing. Is self-love expressed in complacency, or in fighting against the odds to get the best for oneself? To get what we deserve?
I don't think that beauty was more inclusive in the past. I think it was more exclusive. The modern idea of beauty - good natural body - is at least accessible. You cannot do much about the fetishes of the past. The hair color, and the demand to have a face that sets forth a thousand ships. 24" in the waist? Doable! Being natural blond with wavy locks in a stocky, dark-haired nation? One in a million. Authors of article like that always assume that the drive to be beautiful is external, the pressure of media, the BS. But it is internal. It sits at the core of every woman. The "Mirror, mirror on the Wall" wasn't written in 1970'ies.... T
he authors of these articles forget women stuffed in corsets, elongating their necks, binding their feet in childhood.... The pursuit of beauty is old, universal and omnipresent. And only very few do it for the men. Most do it for the mirror. For SELF.
I feel we need more people telling us: You CAN do it! and HOW, rather than GIVE THE HECK UP. IT'S GENETIC.
Last edited by Leida; 06-26-2012 at 06:42 AM.
Leida, you are too much. Have you ever seen a psychologist for your body dis-morphia/ disordered eating?
No, I do not have the See the Specialist Syndrome that seem to impact so many Americans. I think I have the healthy attitude towards my body. It is only derailed by artifacts of the modern life: the office work, the super-availability of bad food, the modern spin on evolutionary laziness
I do all that. Mirror image is just one of the categories. I will be happy with myself; I know exactly what I want, and it is not somebody elses' body. It is mine, minus the fat layer that is possible to remove. Other women did it. I should be able too.Start defining yourself by what you can do - how strong you are, how long of a hike you can go on without being exhausted, or being able to keep up with younger women playing a sport. As long as you keep letting the mirror define your beauty you will likely never be happy with yourself.
Last edited by Leida; 06-26-2012 at 07:21 AM.
Thank you to everyone...you all have inspired me so much. Many times I would have given up even at this early stage, even with the scale moving in the right direction. In the past I would always let that little voice in my head convince me that it was okay to eat something I shouldn't because I was doing so well. Being a part of this group and reading the post everyday keeps me focused and keeps that little voice in my head at bay. So thank you!
I have been reading all of your post about what you see in the mirror and well I seem to have the opposite problem (not sure if that's healthy either!) when I look in the mirror what I see doesn't seem to look bad to me...I have an hour glass shape and seem to gain or lose weight in proportion to that. Then I get on the scale and feel like there is no way that weight can look good. So I have started to not trust what I see in the mirror. It really messes with my head, I just try not to think about it. Right now this way of eating is still fun and challenging (I hope it stays that way) so I try to focus on that. I have lost 10lbs and I am SO happy but I am also realistic and understand that it won't always be that way. I will hit plateaus and the closer I get to my goal weight the harder it will become. I'm ok with that. I feel great I enjoy the challenge, I especially like seeing the looks on my childrens faces when they start to understand the reasonings and benefits of why we are doing this.
As a family we spent yesterday driving around to all the Amish vegetable stands to get fresh fruits and vegies, then a stop at the natural food store to see what we could find. Was able to pick up some magnesium (thank you to whom ever recommended it for my restless leg syndrome) some raw honey, and some tea.
Today starts my work week so I wanted to check in and say thanks before the chaos starts!!!