thats the trick..no matter the consequence she is fine with it. I really think she likes upsetting me and lying is the button (she rings it a lot). What I really want to do is empty her room. Leave only necessities in her room. I want her to have the message that the extra's are a privilege and not entitled. However it seems no matter what I do, getting her attention to how important these choices she is making is, is just not sinking through.