[QUOTE=Silvergirl;1187914]I obviously think that getting her to eat a much better diet is the way to go :) I am just not feeling that an ulcer may react well to that necessarily, great if it does. But I am very strict Paleo with the addition of removing eggs and dairy. I am on a PPI now because I have pain with it everyday. Even the PPI isn't working fully anymore. I am a bit nervous of going to the specialist as I think he/she will say the excess fat and protein are making it a lot worse. Then what the heck would I eat.......? But yes, even so I would still encourage you Mum to at least start trying to only eat real, unprocessed foods.[/QUOTE]
I'm sure we'll never know if it works for her. She's sticking with the chemical food like glue. She had the course of antibiotics and everything else that goes with it, so she supposedly has gotten rid of the h. pylori that causes the ulcers, but it could still come back. She's making her body the perfect environment for it by always keeping her acid low.
Have you looked at Chris Kresser's articles about acid reflux and GERD? You probably have, but I thought I would mention it just in case.
[URL="http://chriskresser.com/heartburn"]Chris Kresser - Heartburn and GERD[/URL]
I was on a PPI for a while (pain so bad the ER ran an EKG and ended up giving me morphine - and I have a very high pain threshold). I was taking Prilosec for about a month, and the pain kept getting worse as well as more frequent. I listened to some random woman on a local channel who suggested taking apple cider vinegar and avoiding PPIs and antacids. Seemed completely ridiculous to me, but I tried it and I haven't had any trouble at all since. The vast majority of the time it's an issue of [I]too little [/I]acid, which seems truly bizarre if you can feel it burning your innards.
[QUOTE=eKatherine;1187967]With the assistance of my mother's doctor, she put my father on a fat free skim milk and whole grain diet, on the premise that an 80 year old man can never get down to target weight too fast. He lost over 100 pounds and his memory before dying from Parkinson's.
Yeah, I blame them.[/QUOTE]
I agree. Sorry you had to go through that.
^ These doctors really ought to be held accountable. Criminally bad advice.
[QUOTE=Drumroll;1187723]No, he lives an eight hour or more drive away. I can't cook for him. And the few times I visit him, he doesn't LET me cook for him. Like, I offer and he's like, "hell no! You don't cook right." And yes, those are words straight out of his mouth.
I'm just afraid that his condition is so bad already that the moment he has his "traumatic revelatory moment" it will already be too late to help him. He's in a REALLY bad place bit just won't admit it.
He's dependent on insulin multiple times a day, doesn't exercise, sits for 95% or more of every day, has to take multiple naps a day just to function... And I'll be damned if he wants to make a SINGLE change to the way he lives. At some point I have to accept that I did my duty as his son to try and tell him I care and there are things he can do to help himself.
I'll help him as much as I can, but he has to WANT me to do so first. He does not.[/QUOTE]
All's I can say is that you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. That may sound pretty harsh, but it's the truth. How old is he, though? If he's old enough, and you have money to spare, maybe you can get a caretaker for him? I don't know your situation, exactly.
[QUOTE=Neckhammer;1187927]Sorry to hear. It is sad to say, but family are just as receptive to lifestyle change as complete strangers. Change has to start within. It's like telling someone a hundred times to quit smoking when that person has no plans of stopping.[/QUOTE]
Yep, I've kind of given up trying to help him. He's not a bad person in the least, but damn, he can be aggravating at times.
[QUOTE=magnolia1973;1187924]Take him to a nursing facility and introduce him to someone with diabetes living with an amputation, constant infection and so weakened that a feeding tube is required. Because eventually with diabetes, it starts killing you, even with meds. Miserable way to die. Watching my father go through these cycles and it's heartbreaking.[/QUOTE]
Actually, he was talking about amputation tonight at dinner as though he had already decided that it was a forgone conclusion. :(
[QUOTE=Cierra;1187983]All's I can say is that you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. That may sound pretty harsh, but it's the truth. How old is he, though? If he's old enough, and you have money to spare, maybe you can get a caretaker for him? I don't know your situation, exactly.[/QUOTE]
Funny thing? His girlfriend is a caretaker for people with disabilities and dementia, ect. So he kind of has that already, although from what I've seen, she's a freakin' enabler more than anything. The nutrition aspect of this is not her strong point.
Oh, Drumroll. I'm so sorry you are going through this. My Dad just passed away last November at 87. He had high blood pressure for decades and borderline diabetes. Dad never really was a SAD eater, more like a health food CW eater. He bought the whole evil saturated fat thing hook, line, and sinker.
It took getting taken to the ER with a massive attack of cellulitis in his legs and shooting neuropathy pains so bad he could barely hobble to get him to say to me, "Well, I think I am about ready to try that crazy diet of yours." Direct quote.
I started cooking all his meals and cleaned out his pantry. Within days all the inflammation and pain were gone. Within a month we had his scary high BP down to 115/75 consistently and he was able to get off of 2 BP meds and the statins.
He did really well for a while until the damage done on his heart by all those years of high BP caught up with him in the form of CHD. He threw a couple of clots and had some small strokes and it was downhill from there.
I firmly believe that, had I gotten him Primal a few years earlier, he could have lived another ten years. His Mom made it to 98.
Hugs. I know how hard it is to try to help where the help isn't wanted or understood.
Thanks PB, your support means a lot. But as I said before... I can't help him unless he wants to be helped, so for now, my advice is staying put. Something has to change in his mind first before he'll be receptive enough to take it.
Have you read this? Maybe you can take some solace in it.
[url=http://robbwolf.com/2012/04/04/paleo-diet-convince-it/]Is the paleo diet hard to do? Can you make the change?[/url]