Hi i really struggle with this topic! I cruise along doing really well and then someone says how great i look and that im losing weight and suddenly BANG!! Its almost like a green light to eat something naughty! Just wondering if anyone else has come across this, if so have your dealt with it and how. This stops me from meeting my goals, i get frustrated with myself and do the whole guilt thing.
Any suggestions would be greatly received!
My specs wouldn't be considered great when told to people online:
But everyone I know around me says that I'm in a great shape and doesn't require any improvement, they always wonder why I keep going on more and more extremely diets and trying to improve. It's just the whole point of it of how badly you want to achieve what you want and once you have what you want, you keep wanting more and more! Just have to understand the concept and "Rule your mind" to the point of what you want to achieve.
Do whatever you think it's right for you and that you're happy with it!
Put yourself in one of those situations mentally and walk through it. What is the little voice in your mind telling you at any given time? There is a sequential dialogue going on in your mind that you are able to change.
focus more on how you feel not how you look
so when someone says 'you look great'
reply with 'I feel EVEN better because I constantly make the right choices '
I used to do exactly as you describe, Yogi. It is as though a compliment is permission to veer off track. Several years ago I shifted something in my brain and decided that nothing (even success!) was going to stop me. You can do that. Don't wait as long as I did.
the compliments should serve as motivation to stay on track as the plan is clearly working!
Perhaps you are thinking 'diet' rather than lifestyle? If you are feeling deprived you need to determine why and how to correct that.
I just focus on feeding my body well, that is my priority. If I eat junk I don't feel guilty about it but I don't binge because being healthy is the goal.
[QUOTE=Katsuhiko the Rolfer;1159212]focus more on how you feel not how you look[/QUOTE]
I have the exact same problem. Also, if I've had a really good drop in weight, I get cocky and think I can eat this or that crap. I am really trying to get to the root of it, as I want to weigh 120 (or look like I do). Apple fritters aren't going to get me there... I start a new strength training at my gym this week, I am hoping the new keeps me motivated to stay healthy.
We do have an unfortunate tendency to repeat the same behaviors that failed to work in the past, imagining that things will turn out different this time.
Are you telling yourself you're "done" and you don't need to "diet" anymore? Concentrate on the goal of good health and how it follows from eating healthy food, not just in a general way but directly from each good thing you eat. Then practice imagining the opposite: how each unhealthy thing you eat will degrade your body.
This is a lifelong process, not a temporary distraction from "normal" eating.