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[QUOTE=Scott F;1093084]So was it cruel to tell our kids when they acted up we were going to sell them to the gypsies?
And even threatened to call 1-800-gypsies?[/QUOTE]
Hahaha, my stepdad used to say they had bought me from the gypsies for two tambourines . . . And they really missed those tambourines.
[QUOTE=Ayla2010;1093091]Maybe.
I don't do threats either. But I guess not as bad hitting.
Does anyone else not just talk to their children, even before they fully understand things? They are people you know.[/QUOTE]
Who said there would be no talking? Why do you assume a rational person would just fly off the handle?
[QUOTE=PrimalJewishAmericanPrincess;1093107]First, it was a joke. Jesus. Second, how's that working out for you? Seeking advice on a fitness forum and spending most of the days there discussing your own issues instead of paying attention to your kid.[/QUOTE]
Are you for real?
First I don't sit here all day, I do other things with my 2.5 in between, but children do not need 100% of our time. They actually like playing alone at times, and will come to me if they need something. And secondly my oldest child is at school during the day.
No need to attack me like that. Seriously.
[QUOTE=Zanna;1093110]Hahaha, my stepdad used to say they had bought me from the gypsies for two tambourines . . . And they really missed those tambourines.[/QUOTE]
I was found in the cabbage patch. Being traded for tambourines seems more glamorous
[QUOTE=bloodorchid;1093112]Who said there would be no talking? Why do you assume a rational person would just fly off the handle?[/QUOTE]
No -one specifically said that, which is why I asked.
And maybe a rational person wouldn't fly off the handle, but then I don't understand smacking while rational and calm anyway, when you could just discuss the issue. I haven't seen anyone else yet, except you mention you were given a warning first and then smacked. Maybe I missed those posts.
I mentioned earlier the only times i've even thought about doing it was while angry, but not actually done it. I guess I just assumed all other people did the same, since it was also the only times I was hit. Never calmly.
[QUOTE=Ayla2010;1093102]What do you mean?[/QUOTE]
Exactly, that. Too many people believe they can use reason with a mind that hasn't developed the capacity to yet do so.
google: primitive child rearing
lots of stuff to choose from
[url]https://www.google.com/search?q=primitive+child+rearing&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-beta[/url]
[url=http://www.thedailybeast.com/newsweek/2012/12/16/best-practices-for-raising-kids-look-to-hunter-gatherers.html]Best Practices for Raising Kids? Look to Hunter-Gatherers - Newsweek and The Daily Beast[/url]
[url=http://www.nbcnews.com/id/39655015/ns/health-kids_and_parenting]Is it time to return to caveman parenting? - Health - Children's health | NBC News[/url]
[url=http://www.eurekaselect.com/54068/chapter]Child Rearing and the Treatment of Children in Primitive Cultures | BenthamScience[/url]
[QUOTE=Zanna;1093110]Hahaha, my stepdad used to say they had bought me from the gypsies for two tambourines . . . And they really missed those tambourines.[/QUOTE]
Oh, now I can't wait to have grandkids and use that line :p. My daughter has a new puppy she brought home this past weekend. I practiced spoiling it for her. He's sure got sharp teeth.
I think that whether you believe in spanking or not, whether you had your kids yesterday or 40 years ago, it is likely that every parent in this thread loves their children and does the best they can by them in every way possible.
Agreeing or disagreeing with someone doesn't mean liking or disliking them or thinking they are "good" or "bad." This thread has gotten very contentious, and I apologize if I hurt anyone's feelings.
[QUOTE=Scott F;1093119]Exactly, that. Too many people believe they can use reason with a mind that hasn't developed the capacity to yet do so.
google: primitive child rearing
lots of stuff to choose from
[url]https://www.google.com/search?q=primitive+child+rearing&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-beta[/url]
[url=http://www.thedailybeast.com/newsweek/2012/12/16/best-practices-for-raising-kids-look-to-hunter-gatherers.html]Best Practices for Raising Kids? Look to Hunter-Gatherers - Newsweek and The Daily Beast[/url]
[url=http://www.nbcnews.com/id/39655015/ns/health-kids_and_parenting]Is it time to return to caveman parenting? - Health - Children's health | NBC News[/url]
[url=http://www.eurekaselect.com/54068/chapter]Child Rearing and the Treatment of Children in Primitive Cultures | BenthamScience[/url][/QUOTE]
I am happy with how we are raising our children.
My oldest is understanding more and more all the time, and we CAN reason with him. Its how the school deals with issues, by talking through them.
My youngest doesn't always understand everything but doesn't mean I am not going to talk through things. I talked to them all day about everything from birth. Doesn't everyone do that?
[QUOTE=JoanieL;1093133]I think that whether you believe in spanking or not, whether you had your kids yesterday or 40 years ago, it is likely that every parent in this thread loves their children and does the best they can by them in every way possible.
Agreeing or disagreeing with someone doesn't mean liking or disliking them or thinking they are "good" or "bad." This thread has gotten very contentious, and I apologize if I hurt anyone's feelings.[/QUOTE]
If you can hit your children like I described and lots of us have experienced, then no I don't think these people truly love their children and are just an inconvenience to them.