There's a difference between cheating, and wanting to cheat. Obviously neither are ideal, but at least in the latter you've got self restraint! I'd consider kissing and above cheating.
I hear what you're saying Om. Spending a lot of time with someone you fancy, and feeling it build into physical cheating is premeditated cheating :p
I cheated twice. Once cos' we were doing long distance and I was... lonely? Another time cos' my relationship was falling apart, and I finally succumbed to advances from a guy who'd been chasing me for ages. I think I did it to test whether I really wanted to still be with my bf. (I broke up with him two days later).
In both cases I was absolutely fucked drunk but I don't think that's an excuse. I always knew what I was doing, but I said fuck it, and threw caution to the wind. ANd in both cases I cheated cos' something wasn't working for me in the relationships. But some people cheat cos' they're not sure, and once they cheat they have the opposite reaction I did - they realise what they might be missing.
ANd then there are some people who.. just cheat! I have two female friend who always cheat on their boyfriends. One of them does it for the thrill, I think. The other one does it cos' she's looking for something better than what she has..! SHe just got married and said she's under no illusions about the likelihood of being faithful in marriage.
I think if everyone is on the same page, there shouldn't be a problem. Some people like to have sex with lots of other people. If a spouse or SO is ok with that, by all means... Its when one is being misled that it becomes unsatisfactory behavior on the part of the other.
I don't think cheating is always with malicious intent, as in your case Yoyo. But it doesn't make it acceptable to the one being cheated on (if they find out). I understand those reasons.
Well that goes without saying ;) No such thing as cheating in an open relationship...
Right, so what is one who cheats for the thrill to do?
Well, she eventually stopped cheating. She just matured I guess, and became more empathic. Prior to that she never considered the feelings of her boyfriends when she did it, cos it didn't mean anything to her. But now she's in a serious relationship and hasn't even considered cheating.
I've cheated before too. When I was very young, 17-18, I cheated on every single boyfriend I had, but they weren't serious relationships--they only lasted a few weeks, maybe two or three months, at a time. I did it back then, I think, because I could. I was quite cute when I was young and way thinner too. And guys literally fell at my feet in droves. Because before that, when I was even younger (as a child), I was overweight and everyone made fun of me, I had very low self-esteem. So when I got to the point where guys were falling all over me, I sort of was cruel to everyone just to, I don't know, make myself feel better, I think.
I stopped doing that after I went to college and got into a serious relationship with someone I really loved and really got along with. But then I cheated on my current boyfriend with one other person. My relationship wasn't working, and I thought I was in love with this other person. I think I was only temporarily infatuated with him. In any case, it wasn't a great experience. I felt really guilty, and the whole thing was stupid.
Hmm. I dunno what to say to all of this, except that cheating sucks, and .... wellp, that's about it. lol! But maybe necessary for people, sometimes, to figure out what they want in life. Ah well.
[B][U]Thursday, June 27[/U][/B]
3:30a.m.-11a.m. laid in bed till noon, though. I'm lazy :P
Didn't take any Vit D today
Got a little bit of hookah smoking in, though. You know what? Lifting weights + not eating + smoking hookah = not feeling well.
I don't think I'm going to do that again...
A half-assed "Push Day" but didn't finish through.
[U]B:[/U] coffee/almond milk/stevia. 1 envelope gelatin/almond milk/cacao/maca/stevia/1tsp sugar. A bit later, 1 corncake thin, fat-free cheese (I know!) and 1/2 slice of good quality bacon.
[U]L/S:[/U] the last bit of freeze-dried apples and 1 small mango with chili powder all over it. Later, 1 package of freeze-dried apples & blueberries in almond milk, eaten like cereal.
[U]D:[/U] ~220g (raw weight, not eaten raw [I]ombat[/I]) lamb trimmed of fat, grilled with tomatoes. Cauliflower rice (and a couple spoonfuls of regular rice) with ~1tsp butter and saffron. 2% greek yogurt cucumber-mint sauce on the side.
[U]S:[/U] The rest of the 2% greek yogurt mixed with cacao/maca powder. Hot sleepy tea with almond milk.
[U]Drinks:[/U] Coffee, water, almond milk, a few sips of Coke (I was dying!), sexy tea, sleepy tea.
[U]Cravings:[/U] None today, really. But I did get exceptionally hungry as I was sitting at the hookah bar. But hunger is different than cravings, obviously. [I]Update:[/I] omg, I had so much lamb tonight that I could hardly finish my yogurt! I decided to not have the froyo bar and just have the rest of my greek yogurt and hot tea.
[U]Calories:[/U] ~1150. Feels like I had so much more, though!
**Sad coconut news: Last night, the coconut I purchased [I]exploded[/I] in my kitchen! I was just standing there, doing dishes after dinner, and I heard this weird noise, like spewing. I thought maybe the oven was still on and I turned around, and the coconut was spitting its water everywhere! I managed to put it in a big bowl and drain the liquid, but it was fermented and really gross. I had to throw the whole thing away. Sadface. I didn't even know that could happen!
[U]Hair:[/U] Did I mention that I think that the gelatin consumption has been making my hair grow? I'm also considering lasering off the hair on my arms, but it seems like a lot of work. Will ponder this until the weekend, when I'm more likely to do something like that.
[U]Skin:[/U] Went without cover-up again today and didn't feel like a beast. Moisturized my skin really well today and even gave myself a mini pedicure with my new kit. For some reason I am really particular about stuff like this and I think it's important to pay attention to details when it comes to your looks, to make yourself really clean-cut.
[U]Nails:[/U] Ugh, speaking of paying attention to details, my nails are really suffering. They are peeling, the polish is already severely chipped, aaaaand my toenails don't match my fingernails! The horror!
[U]Body:[/U] I feel okay today, not overly confident, not like the scum of the Earth, either. I guess I'll just get it over with and post the updates today. I don't think they're very noteworthy, though, because I can't see much improvement from the last time I took them:
I know that they're not the best quality but well that's what you get when you don't do photoshop hahaha.
[U]Digestion:[/U] I think I ate too much freeze-dried fruit yesterday ... lol!
[U]Energy:[/U] Kind of low. I felt a bit moody today, too.
Today was really uneventful. My bf and his friend watched like 2 hours of Dragonball GT while I made them breakfast and fucked around on MDA for a while. Then we went to work out, but I didn't know that my bf had made plans to go straight to the hookah bar afterwards, or else I would've brought a snack or something. At least a change of clothes! I felt awful most of the time we were there because I didn't have anything substantial beforehand and my overall workout experience was sub-par. But, I'm looking forward to dinner tonight, and then we're going to make a WalMart trip -- I need to get cat litter, and I might get some new art supplies, even though I freakin' hate going there. It's interesting to see the people that go there at like 1am though. Ever been to [url=http://peopleofwalmart.com]Funny Pictures at WalMart[/url] ? Yeaaaah.
[U]Career Update:[/U] Took a practice test for becoming a personal trainer. Without studying or anything, I was just a few points below passing to get a license! That was pretty encouraging, so I think I'll keep pressing the topic.
Jesus christ holy F. Your body. I meant to ask yesterday, what improvements are you meaning to see that you're not seeing?
Way to go on the practice exam!
[QUOTE]~150g (raw weight, not eaten raw [I]ombat[/I])[/QUOTE]
Kind of reminds me, at Buffalo Wild Wings the other night I asked my cousins, "What do they do with the rest of the chicken???" I was joking of course, but I got precisely the reaction I was looking for.
[QUOTE=ombat;1236738]Jesus christ holy F. Your body. I meant to ask yesterday, what improvements are you meaning to see that you're not seeing?
Way to go on the practice exam![/QUOTE]
Oh gosh, Batty, you'll make me blush haha. Thanks, to both the compliment and 'bout the exam. ^__^
I guess when I'm comparing the photos I took recently to the ones I took about a month ago, they just look similar... I don't really know what differences I believe I should be seeing, though. Maybe I was hoping my abs would look more defined, lol. Don't get me wrong, I'm not unhappy with what I've accomplished. I suppooooose I am impatient, lol.
Kind of reminds me, at Buffalo Wild Wings the other night I asked my cousins, "What do they do with the rest of the chicken???" I was joking of course, but I got precisely the reaction I was looking for.[/QUOTE]
That reminds me of the Squidbillies episode (ugh, I hate that show, why was I watching it?!) when they made genetically modified chickens that were bread to have like 16 wings, and bleed buffalo dipping sauce, and their legs were celery sticks....
Aw, geez, Derpy. You always know just what to say. :o lol.