I kinda forget Want

No offense, but the first two posts gave me a headache...that's as far as I made it into this thread....

I remembered today that I want a refrigerator tackle box to cram with readily-available foodstuffs to make meal preparation simpler.

I hate to stereotype but you're describing female shoppers to a T. Like me, for instance. I will stand there in front of a lipgloss display for 15 minutes decaying color and price and minutiae before deciding to give up because I can't make up my mind whether to get raspberry or lean more towards fuchsia lipgloss :D

You just have to be okay with being yelled at/disapproved of. I've been married 5 years and I just bought a Rainbow Dash My Little Pony. I used to be an aquarium hoarder but I'm too busy at work. My wife is so budget-driven that we don't live - so she can't blame me when I snap and buy stupid things every now and then. So I walk in the door, look her in the eyes, and say, "Look what I bought!" smiling. She doesn't get as mad as she used to. So don't give up. Even if you can't go all-out on a new interest or hobby, you can still enjoy the sillier things in life and enjoy the hobbies you had before marriage. I still have my guitars and a few aquariums. She was SO obsessed with hating my fish it was unbearable, so I finally did get rid of most of them, but still have one tank in memory of my dead passion. So I guess what I'm saying is, you'll have to get used to this slavery and let most of your passions die, throw away the dreams you have of being an awesome hang-glider, regular bicyclist or active member of any club or group of any kind. But, in return, your wife can't be too upset when you snap and buy stupid crap, because it's her fault you're dead inside and she's going to have to own up to having permanently killed your every last bit of passion and ability to express yourself or enjoy life in any meaningful way.

[QUOTE=Mr.Perfidy;1075788]for example- man has maybe not yet made a food that I will not at least suffer through, and I can truthfully say that I find totally delicious and excellent almost everything that I have ever tried, and that I try new food all of the time.

My wife, however (and this merits a seperate discussion: bitches with crazy arbitarily limited diets, because it is so common around here and I do not understand) only eats cheese fries or chicken fingers or pizza. So, when we go out to eat, I never even consider where I would like to go, because her childhood boardwalk nostalgia pallette limits our choices so much- so, she picks always. On the rare occassion that I am free to just go wherever I want, I find the initial inspiration phase, where I would say to myself, "I am in the mood for..." is typically feeble and malnourished in my psyche.[/QUOTE]

I am exactly the same way! We are soul cats!

[QUOTE=Mr.Perfidy;1075786]As in, lately I literally lack the ability to choose things for myself or make decisions, if that decision is based only on my preference or desire (and not limited by budget concerns, availability, etc).

I'm sittin here with this amazon gift card my wife got me for christmas, and I don't even know where to begin. It's been like 2 weeks of half-hearted second-thought browsing around, and I haven't even had an idea about stuff that I want.

Does anyone else have a similar limitation now that they are conditioned by domesticity and monogamy to first and most intensely consider another and their wants before their own? I can't tell if it's cool or gay to go through lol[/QUOTE]

Maybe you just don't want anything. Considering that 99% of stuff for sale these days is garbage, it really would be a rational explanation.

[QUOTE=Knifegill;1076505]You just have to be okay with being yelled at/disapproved of. I've been married 5 years and I just bought a Rainbow Dash My Little Pony. I used to be an aquarium hoarder but I'm too busy at work. My wife is so budget-driven that we don't live - so she can't blame me when I snap and buy stupid things every now and then. So I walk in the door, look her in the eyes, and say, "Look what I bought!" smiling. She doesn't get as mad as she used to. So don't give up. Even if you can't go all-out on a new interest or hobby, you can still enjoy the sillier things in life and enjoy the hobbies you had before marriage. I still have my guitars and a few aquariums. She was SO obsessed with hating my fish it was unbearable, so I finally did get rid of most of them, but still have one tank in memory of my dead passion. So I guess what I'm saying is, you'll have to get used to this slavery and let most of your passions die, throw away the dreams you have of being an awesome hang-glider, regular bicyclist or active member of any club or group of any kind. But, in return, your wife can't be too upset when you snap and buy stupid crap, because it's her fault you're dead inside and she's going to have to own up to having permanently killed your every last bit of passion and ability to express yourself or enjoy life in any meaningful way.[/QUOTE]

It seems you are still very passionate about the fact that you are now without passion.

[QUOTE=Knifegill;1076505]I just bought a Rainbow Dash My Little Pony[/QUOTE][img]http://i2.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/006/026/futuramafry.jpg[/img]

My girlfriend is the same way. Not just with purchases, but, like, everything. When it comes to things like where we're going out to eat, what's going on the grocery list, what we're doing with our day off together, etc. I have no choice but to be Mr. Asshole and say "we're going hiking and getting kebabs, end of discussion." I've tried to resist it and encourage her to be a proactive decision-maker, but to no avail. She'll either waffle until the sun goes down, or get mad at me for not making a decision.

I tried to find a way to word this without insulting you, but there's not really any way around that. OP in all seriousness I think you may have a testosterone issue, assuming you haven't already looked into that. Lack of confidence in decision making seems to be a very feminine trait (whether patriarchal social engineering or genetics, obviously I can't say for sure), and I've noticed my confidence has increased in direct correlation with improvement in other areas like physique and libido as a result of diet & exercise.

lol what?

I have no lack of confidence in decision-making, just less desires than when growing up.

I actually think "decisiveness" is a feminine trait though. When I feel manliest is when I don't give a fuck and am content to laugh at the evidently very important achievements of the trying-hard, furrowed brow types.

[quote]She was SO obsessed with hating my fish it was unbearable, so I finally did get rid of most of them, but still have one tank in memory of my dead passion. So I guess what I'm saying is, you'll have to get used to this slavery and let most of your passions die, [/quote]

lol wow people are taking this way incorrectly. I guess that is my fault for not effectively communicating.

I am not "losing passions" or enslaved...unless you consider like, trolling EBay for replica daggers and tapestries a passion. I don't do that shit anymore.

I think it has a lot to do also with just totally forgetting my single-life identity. Now it seems so long ago that I have trouble recalling it or relating to past decisions, but when I reflect upon it, I would note that really I have always lacked in the covetousness materialist department- until I had to worry about my wife's comfort and status my apartment was minimally furnished and I slept on a pile of blankets on the floor for example.

[quote]throw away the dreams you have of being an awesome hang-glider, regular bicyclist or active member of any club or group of any kind. But, in return, your wife can't be too upset when you snap and buy stupid crap, because it's her fault you're dead inside and she's going to have to own up to having permanently killed your every last bit of passion and ability to express yourself or enjoy life in any meaningful way. [/quote]

well I quite enjoy that ass thrice daily- again, I am not without passion...

lol I just didn't know what to buy myself with this gift card.