question for those of you long married (and still happy)
Since this place attracts freethinkers I'm expecting to get both practical and oddball advice, but what the hell - something might stick.
Husband and I have been married ten years and we have a nearly five-year-old. We get on, rub along, tolerate each other well. There are no blazing rows, but times are tough and we are run ragged by various unfortunate life events (long-term unemployment = him, unsatisfactory employment = me; homesickness = me [I'm an expat]; the joys of parenting a very challenging and bright little boy [both of us]). We love each other, there is care and affection, but we are no longer [B]in love[/B]. I find it nigh on impossible to manufacture any kind of spark between us - not sex (that's not the problem, per se), but passion. I find it amazingly easy to project desire, passion and even that magical in-love feeling on to others, but not my poor, long-suffering husband.
How in a long-term relationship does one fall back in love once that feeling has gone, gone, gone?
We're broke. We're knackered. We have maybe two hours each week night and three or four at the weekend. Babysitting is a very scarce commodity. We are very different people with different interests, aesthetics and social needs (we share a similar ethical outlook and have similar life goals).