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Now block her number!
Your brother gives some pretty good advice. Don't let her weasel her way back into talking to you. The text back to her does sort of open a line of communication, but don't let that happen.
Is there another cross fit gym? Or are there classes that don't fit her schedule?
I think you handled it the right way. You sent her a polite message, that I think ended things well. It will be hard if you run into her again, though. Do you know her usual CF schedule? If so you can probably avoid her that way. However, I'd consider going somewhere else (if possible... personally there's only one CF gym in the vicinity of where I live and I'm on a contract, but it may be different for you).
whoa no you can't let some girl chase you out of your gym. own it and be confident. the sight of you working out should be like rubbing a dog's nose in poop when they have an accident indoors to her
Not sure if this has been covered, but here's my 2 cents.
You can center your life on many different things. Some are self-centered, friends-centered, school-centered, workaholics, religion-centered, bf/gf-centered, etc. The best thing to be is principle-centered. If you live on principles, all those things will come to you. Hard work, altruism, honesty, etc brings success, friends, and happiness.
In contrast, you sound like you're living a bf/gf-centered life. When shit happens there, your day is ruined. If it's permanent, your whole life turns to crap. You have to not put all your eggs in one basket.
Why not start- right now -to think of and feel about your ex as you will think of and feel about them in 20 years?
So take some time for yourself. Chances are you're withdrawn and not going out to see people anyway. So go off by yourself, turn off all your telephones and just give yourself some time alone. Turn off the TV.
[QUOTE=wiltondeportes;973956]Not sure if this has been covered, but here's my 2 cents.
You can center your life on many different things. Some are self-centered, friends-centered, school-centered, workaholics, religion-centered, bf/gf-centered, etc. The best thing to be is principle-centered. If you live on principles, all those things will come to you. Hard work, altruism, honesty, etc brings success, friends, and happiness.
In contrast, you sound like you're living a bf/gf-centered life. When shit happens there, your day is ruined. If it's permanent, your whole life turns to crap. You have to not put all your eggs in one basket.[/QUOTE]
Carnegie said to put all your eggs in one basket and guard it like hell!
was there a long-distance component to this relationship?
no.
She responded to my text with
"Thanks, TFC that means a lot. I hope you are doing well too. This is all very difficult and I don't want to make anything more difficult. It's hard not talking to you"
I went through those feelsing when my husband left me. Don't put your body through what I put mine through though. I could not eat for 2 months. I lived on about 200 calories a day that I forced into my body. I had to go to the hospital because I felt so awful. I regularly passed out in the shower, etc. I needed to lose weight but this was not the way to do it. My nails broke, my hair fell out, I looked awful and I was weak. It took months to feel strong again. I lost muscle along with fat. I sat in the dark in my room and cried. I did not sleep. I let life pass me by. What a waste! Two months gone of my life for someone who valued me so little that he walked out on me and left me in the most heartless way ever.
I know this is probably not the best plan but I started seeing someone. It gave me something to live for (other than the obvious) and distracted me. Then I played around with some onlinie dating sites. I found someone really special. A lot of people will say you should wait awhile and mourn your loss but everyone is different. A little fun, adventure and distraction might just pull you through the hard times and get the healing started. Heck I think there is a primal dating site!
[QUOTE=TheFastCat;974332]no.
She responded to my text with
"Thanks, TFC that means a lot. I hope you are doing well too. This is all very difficult and I don't want to make anything more difficult. It's hard not talking to you"[/QUOTE]
ffs she's dragging it out
for your own emotional security, block her. either temporarily or permanently