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[QUOTE=TheFastCat;981237]She said that I was much more prepared for the relationship than she was... she still had feelings for her ex-boyfriend that she broke up with 10 months ago... that I didn't accept the person she was. Three days beforehand she was pushing me away; it was out of nowhere and caught me very offguard.[/QUOTE]
Sounds like she has a trend of regretting her actions.
[QUOTE=TheFastCat;981237]She said that I was much more prepared for the relationship than she was... she still had feelings for her ex-boyfriend that she broke up with 10 months ago... that I didn't accept the person she was. Three days beforehand she was pushing me away; it was out of nowhere and caught me very offguard.[/QUOTE]
If you feel strongly about her and you want to give the relationship another shot, then talk about this with her. If you trust that she is prepared for the relationship now and she doesn't have feeling for her ex anymore, then get back together with her. You didn't accept the person she was? Definitely clear this issue up too. Good luck!
She is obviously confused. But the best thing you can do is the old play hard to get trick. She knows you love her more than she loves you. Women only realise what they have lost if you aren't available. If she knows she can have you back in a second she won't want you.
Give her something to chase. Women like the challenge and love bastards.
I know I am being over simplistic. But I'm a woman and I understand the game playing. Don't be available to talk. Tell her there is nothing to talk about. Act happy when you see her but be a little detached. It will eat her up.
If you are dependable and there when she needs you she will say "I just want to be friends, you're too nice".
Only distance will help her realise if she has made a mistake. Sorry this sounds so sick and game playing, but it works! Play hard to get!
[QUOTE=Rueben;981712] If she knows she can have you back in a second she won't want you. [/QUOTE]
I've been there and done that. I had a girlfriend in high school that broke up with me, after she cheated on me and I took her back, because said she just wanted to be friends. It tore me up, I couldn't eat or sleep...but when I would ignore her for a few days, she'd call me to tell me about the date she just went on...she just wanted to feel wanted by me and I played right into it. Instead of hating her like I should, I've always been embarrassed to see her, even over a decade later because I know, deep down, she owned me for a long time. It's very humiliating, TFC, don't be humiliated. Grab your balls and say out loud "You can not have these".
I concur with what Quelsen said.
If you really love her, and she really loves you, the two of you need to go to counseling. Together, AND separately.
If she won't agree to counseling, then she's not worth the pain.
The only known cure for a broken heart is a box of kittens.
[QUOTE=quelsen;981051]once she fixes her problem she WILL NOT CHOOSE YOU.... You are just the school, she will graduate and move to someone with whom she has no baggage at all.[/QUOTE]
Quelson is 100% correct. [b]STAY AWAY FROM HER. SHE IS USING YOU AS A REBOUND. SHE WILL DUMP YOU AGAIN ANYWAY. AND THEN SHE WILL FIND SOMEBODY ELSE. AND IT WILL HURT YOU EVEN WORSE.[/b]
I know this because this happened to me.... a year ago. And I'm still not over it.
He used me. Then he found the love of his life. And I got nada, not even a date. At least take comfort that you are not as pathetic as I am. You would think I would have recovered by now...or at least found someone else by now.
Well I did sleep with her best friend. I think it kind of helped.
[QUOTE=TheFastCat;1055476]Well I did sleep with her best friend. I think it kind of helped.[/QUOTE]
hahahaha! I've been reading this to help me with a similar situation and then BOOM FastCat struck again! FastCat, give us an update man. I feel like the movie is only 3/4 of the way done. I see you slept with her best friend. Did you guys ever talk? What was the conclusion?
[QUOTE=TheFastCat;1055476]Well I did sleep with her best friend. I think it kind of helped.[/QUOTE]
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