Giving up on husband

[QUOTE=kenn;965485]Please, the OP is thinking about divorce and breaking up her family in the long run[/QUOTE]

I saw it more as she can see the ill-health in store for him, and having to deal with that, not that she is thinking of divorce.

Also, if things are really awful, sometimes it makes sense to leave. I don't think that's what the OP is wanting, though. I see a woman who cares very much about her spouse and wants him to be healthy and with her for many years to come.

[QUOTE=Sabine;965602]I saw it more as she can see the ill-health in store for him, and having to deal with that, not that she is thinking of divorce.[/QUOTE]

I think what she sees ahead of her is becoming a nursemaid rather than a partner and having to wipe his ass and help him ambulate.

[QUOTE=sbhikes;965628]I think what she sees ahead of her is becoming a nursemaid rather than a partner and having to wipe his ass and help him ambulate.[/QUOTE]Yup. Perfectly legitimate reason to worry; it happens every day.

I'm really glad my wife and I are on the same page about health stuff. She has chronic health issues (mostly digestive and mostly stress-related it seems) but we're both working together to find solutions and she's willing to experiment whenever I find something I think might help her.

[QUOTE=kenn;965485]Please, the OP is thinking about divorce and breaking up her family in the long run[/QUOTE]

Dude... all that baggage must be heavy.
You might consider setting it down before you permanently damage your back or something...

[QUOTE=bloodorchid;965581]or perhaps the OP realizes that no matter how much she stresses out over her sickly husband, she has to stop worrying about him and his health since he doesn't want to change his dietary habits

hmm? yeah?[/QUOTE]

Yep. That sounds about right.

[QUOTE=Uncephalized;965686]
I'm really glad my wife and I are on the same page about health stuff. She has chronic health issues (mostly digestive and mostly stress-related it seems) but we're both working together to find solutions and she's willing to experiment whenever I find something I think might help her.[/QUOTE]

I wish this was my story. Unfortunately I can empathise with the OP. My wife tends to be a fundamentalist low-fat zealot, who is overweight, unhealthy and tired all the time.
We're in our 50's and I intend to spend my life at the top of the worlds mountains and trekking through its beauty. Ironically its my wifes sister that shares this with me, while my wife is at home reading a book.

[QUOTE=Picaro;965706]I wish this was my story. Unfortunately I can empathise with the OP. My wife tends to be a fundamentalist low-fat zealot, who is overweight, unhealthy and tired all the time.
We're in our 50's and I intend to spend my life at the top of the worlds mountains and trekking through its beauty. Ironically its my wifes sister that shares this with me, while my wife is at home reading a book.[/QUOTE]

Maybe you and I should swap. I want to spend my life at the top of the world's mountains and trekking through its beauty. And my old man is a low-fat zealot who cringes at the idea of steak but can't seem to put two-and-two together on the corn chips and ice cream.

[QUOTE=quelsen;965366]if we knew ahead of time what would happen do you think we would have chosen those partners?[/QUOTE]

In my case, I would say yes.

The reality is that we are going to loose our loved ones -- one way or another. So, it's a risk to love them (or anyone). And, the heartache is just part of the deal.

If a person accepts that from the out-set, then it makes things a lot easier, IMO.

[QUOTE=bloodorchid;965420]kenn

a wise man once said that if all you have is a hammer, every problem looks like a nail

what i'm trying to say is, i think you have some tunnel vision going on[/QUOTE]

My thoughts, exactly, on that one.

[QUOTE=cori93437;965694]Dude... all that baggage must be heavy.
You might consider setting it down before you permanently damage your back or something...



Yep. That sounds about right.[/QUOTE]

Ain't my baggage lass