Okay, and to respond to the actual topic at hand:
I've been really dedicating myself to mental and physical improvement since July of 2011. Over that time, I've definitely noticed changes in how I think about other people and their choices. I am much less angry about other people's choices than I used to be, and I don't "preach" as much. I share information when it's relevant, and however much I want on my own social media pages/threads (Facebook, G+, Twitter). I ask a lot of questions and chime in with helpful facts when I can (like asking Boyfriend what the doctor said about his inflamed intestines and having him buy some ginger beer for the nausea instead of the anti-nausea pills). I have had to resolve so many issues with my own body, I don't really have the energy to worry about anyone else's. I would love to help other people, but I think I can do that better by being a good example of health, and sharing resources on my blog/when asked. If people don't want to hear it, I understand. Change is difficult and scary, and I think people feel guilty, like you'll think they don't try, when you tell them about your amazing improvements through changing your diet.
[QUOTE=BestBetter;951809]I generally try to avoid feeling superior based on something like food choice.[/QUOTE]
I'm pretty smug most days. I'm especially smug at work when I see people thinner than me eating fat free yogurt and lettuce for lunch, while I'm having leftover steak and an avocado. (I just look at them and think: "You may judge my avocados now, but [I]just wait[/I].")
I work out and eat right and it is not easy for me, therefore I think I've got the right to be a leeeeetle smug for myself. That said, I do hate being judgmental about food because it brings to mind other types (vegans, in particular) who are overly smug and preachy about their high road. I can't help but feel insufferably smug, though, when I'm in line with my massive vegetable and meat and egg-filled cart behind a grossly obese individual or family who has nothing but packaged food in theirs.
Smug? No, never. Maybe someday if I ever look like Mark or Al Kavadlo (I doubt it). But not before. My current mini-goal is that with 12 more lbs. lost I will no longer be obese, merely overweight. Satisfied with my progress - yes, smug - no.
I'm often smug about nutrition - but i try to hide it because i know its a bad trait. I just can't help feeling satisfied when someone gives me half a chance to elaborate upon why they should step away from their fat free product and run for the meat section as fast as their feet can carry them.
Whenever i see a fat person who is conciously trying to lose weight by chronic jogging or eating something 'healthy' there is no end to the condescending jokes my brain will entertain itself with.
Imo we/I should remember how annoying this is from external sources. I mean i'm fairly certain everyone of us has a vegan in our lives, strutting around like a reborn Boddhisatva, raising his/her (mostly her) eyebrow at your heretical meat eating ways. We all know how excruciatingly irritating they are. You dont wanna be that person.
[QUOTE=quelsen;951836]...nor am I an "attractive women and girls."
Quelsen, [i]I[/i] find you attractive, and I'm a woman. And I bet that Mrs. Quelsen finds you attractive! So you're not entirely correct! Attractiveness isn't entirely based on physical appearance, although that does play a part.
To answer the OP... I feel sad about the circumstances that have brought about the prevalence of the SAD, and I feel sad for those who struggle with health and weight issues and don't know that the answer may be as "simple" as [i]not[/i] following what those in authority say is good for us.
The once or twice in my life when I've felt smug, it's reared up and smacked me square in the face. Smugness is not a useful emotion, so I try not to indulge it.
The once or twice in my life when I've felt smug, it's reared up and smacked me square in the face. Smugness is not a useful emotion, so I try not to indulge it.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=BestBetter;951809]I generally try to avoid feeling superior based on something like food choice.
I am a work in progress, and my view on nutrition (and life in general) changes over the course of time, as I gain more knowledge and experience with how my body reacts to different things.
Hold fast to the belief that what you are doing is the 'one true way' and you are robbed of the freedom to learn, grow and change.[/QUOTE]
Exactly my thoughts. I don't think I have all the answers and I also think it's difficult to understand the factors in another persons life that have led them to make their dietary choices.
Smugness is kind of obnoxious, so I try to avoid it. I don't always succeed. I do try to at least keep my mouth shut, so no one else is subjected to it.
Let's say I sometimes feel happily virtuous... LOL!
Somebody said to me the other day "I admire your discipline" as she was walking away. I can hardly wait to tell her the next time I see her that I have very little discipline. I am having fun eating. Who needs discipline? I am just very grateful to have found a fun way of eating that gives good results.