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I'm completely aghast at how dysfunctional this last post is...
You are sort of obsessing about when you can eat again.
You are really thin, and your father tells you you are "getting fat" when he sees you eat.
You feel like you "have to eat in secret often".
You've only been away a few days and you are afraid of losing "a lot of weight".
And you are looking for your mother to save you from your fathers judgement by providing food in secret?
I know that you certainly may not have an eating disorder yet... but I think the key word is YET.
If I knew these things about a child/young adult in the school system that I worked in I'd be making sure that they got into some sort of counseling. Period.
Please consider it.
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[QUOTE=cori93437;914708]I'm completely aghast at how dysfunctional this last post is...
You are sort of obsessing about when you can eat again.
You are really thin, and your father tells you you are "getting fat" when he sees you eat.
You feel like you "have to eat in secret often".
You've only been away a few days and you are afraid of losing "a lot of weight".
And you are looking for your mother to save you from your fathers judgement by providing food in secret?
I know that you certainly may not have an eating disorder yet... but I think the key word is YET.
If I knew these things about a child/young adult in the school system that I worked in I'd be making sure that they got into some sort of counseling. Period.
Please consider it.[/QUOTE]
Well, with a lot of weight I mean like 3lbs. I eat about 2x less than at home. It's just not cool to eat while my dad looks at my food and constantly comments about it.
When my dad would just accept how much/what I eat it would all be cool. So I don't see how counseling would really help. My dad is weird, one day he says I eat too little, then he says I'll get fat. I just wish he would stop commenting.
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[QUOTE=Gadsie;914715]Well, with a lot of weight I mean like 3lbs. I eat about 2x less than at home. It's just not cool to eat while my dad looks at my food and constantly comments about it.
When my dad would just accept how much/what I eat it would all be cool. So I don't see how counseling would really help. My dad is weird, one day he says I eat too little, then he says I'll get fat. I just wish he would stop commenting.[/QUOTE]
Have you told him that? Have you sat down and explained to your day what your goals are, shown him the lifting program you're following? Or have you talked to your mom about it so she can explain to him? With your history, you really need support from both parents.
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[QUOTE=teach2183;914734]Have you told him that? Have you sat down and explained to your day what your goals are, shown him the lifting program you're following? Or have you talked to your mom about it so she can explain to him? With your history, you really need support from both parents.[/QUOTE]
The problem is that he doesn't believe anything I say. Sometimes when I'm very full and really want to skip lunch for example he doesn't believe it and makes me eat (not forcing, but very much mental pressure). And then when I'm very hungry and want to eat a lot (more than he thinks is normal) he blames it on my meat eating habits that make me abnormally hungry. I've explained him things but the next day it seems like we never had a conversation. I feel like [I]he[/I] is the one that needs counseling. But I'm slowly starting to just ignore him and let him talk. Which I don't want because he's a nice guy but he doesn't understand things at all.
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Day 5, I think. Not super hungry thankfully. After dinner I found a streetstand that sold coconut pieces so I had some :). Unfortunately they don't sell macadamia nuts here because literally everything is local.
I'm getting a little sick of scrambled eggs and bacon 5 days in a row for breakfast but it's my only choice if I don't want pastries.
Hm what else, yeah, the girls here are very hot. Tomorrow I'll be going to pompeii so that's probably going to be cool
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[url=http://www.innbufalito.it/en/the_restaurant.html]The Restaurant Inn Bufalito Taverna Mediterranea Buffalo Mozzarella Food Drink[/url]
awesome, I can choose from that menu tonight. In the netherlands we don't have buffalo so I might have that
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[QUOTE=Gadsie;914715]Well, with a lot of weight I mean like 3lbs. I eat about 2x less than at home. It's just not cool to eat while my dad looks at my food and constantly comments about it.
When my dad would just accept how much/what I eat it would all be cool. So I don't see how counseling would really help. My dad is weird, one day he says I eat too little, then he says I'll get fat. I just wish he would stop commenting.[/QUOTE]
you BOTH need counseling. immediately.
and you're on vacation. in italy. GET OFF THE INTERNET. mother of god....go meet an italian girl. go to a local market and sample some salumi and local veggies. take a walk. take pictures.
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[QUOTE=not on the rug;916347]you BOTH need counseling. immediately.
and you're on vacation. in italy. GET OFF THE INTERNET. mother of god....go meet an italian girl. go to a local market and sample some salumi and local veggies. take a walk. take pictures.[/QUOTE]
Yes. A girl would be nice. I'm not good with girls at all though.
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I'm an only child and when we're in the hotel room I'm bored so why not surf the internet?:)
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Some pictures of this vacation, I'll post much more + vids when I get home :)
Ice cream making
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Best steak + best restaurant I've ever had/been
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I skipped the potatoes.
Nah of course I didn't they were awesome
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that steak looks delicious! :)
