Maybe I'll take before and after pictures as I get things done to share. :)
Ever checked out the [URL="http://flylady.net/"]Flylady system[/URL] for cleaning? It really turned things around for me, even if I never followed it perfectly.
Hey, at family gatherings where there is virtually nothing to eat, sit there in front of your empty plate and guilt them out... ;) Of course, that might not be very diplomatic, so you might want to consider ignoring me. I do lower my standards a little when I'm out; I don't ask about oils, for instance, but I don't budge on grains. Unless you count having one or two pieces of lightly breaded zucchini budging. (Oh, and some gravy on the turkey. Not at the same meal.) That tiny quantity of flour doesn't cause any bad effects for me. But that's as far as I've ever gone. Fortunately my family is more accommodating than yours. In general, I find that you have to set very clear boundaries. Not over this issue, but over others, I have literally left town several days ahead of schedule. Things got better after that. It was clearly understood that I was serious about not getting pushed around. Your family obviously considers that this is something optional for you, and that you aren't serious because you will eat what they set out. In that case, why should they go to extra effort? So maybe sitting in front of an empty plate - no whining, no anger - will get the message through. You've made changes for health reasons, and you're serious. Phone ahead of time, explain what you can eat and why you're doing this and what happens when you don't, and give specific suggestions for what is acceptable. People don't feel threatened when you tell them you'll be happy with sliced tomatoes and some simple sliced turkey (or whatever corresponds to the menu). It's not exactly pushing them to do something difficult. Offer to bring something to lighten the load, if need be, if only a couple of veggies you could nuke. Whenever I'm invited to someone's home, I phone ahead to let them know what my restrictions are and work something out. Most people can work with plain meat and veggies.
Hope this helps a bit, and isn't just annoying.
Judg, I usually just end up taking my own food. I sincerely thought that Thanksgiving yesterday would include pulled pork. But one of the daughters asked for chicken and noodles, so that's what Grandma made. MIL is just not thinking... she'll go out of her way to bake gluten free cookies for Brady, but can't remember to make a non-gluten dish for him for dinner??? Lack of cognitive practice there. That's ok. I'll just bring food for him and I. She asked me to bring a veggie tray. I had something else in mind, but whatever. I told her I would bring mashed potatoes or rice or something for Brady and I. She'll be ultra thrilled when I eliminate dairy from his diet and she'll have to change her cookie recipe yet again... gee darn.
And yeah, I'm a follower of the FlyLady system... never been able to employ it for long - lose steam, focus, and ambition.
Baby girl is sick. Low grade fever of 101.5 and puking. Won't eat or drink. Poor baby. Might have to stay home tomorrow to tend to a sick bear. :(
Staying home with baby girl today. She registered a fever of 102 this morning. She looks so sleepy. :(
On the to do list:
2. Sort clean clothes into piles of who they belong to (make it easier to fold in my mind)
3. Fold at least one person's clothes and put away (two people's clothes would be best)
4. Sort through paper clutter on kitchen counter
5. Take pictures before I start. ;)
I like to sort laundry before folding when it feels really daunting. You could approach it like loans and tackle the smallest things first :) I usually sort the socks and underwear first, then fold everything else.
[SIZE=7]BRAD GOT THE JOB!!!! [/SIZE]
He will now be on 1st shift full time instead of the 1st/2nd swing shift!! Doing happy dances in my kitchen!!!
[QUOTE=namelesswonder;1011001]I like to sort laundry before folding when it feels really daunting. You could approach it like loans and tackle the smallest things first :) I usually sort the socks and underwear first, then fold everything else.[/QUOTE]
I usually fold my clothes first (less of them worn during the week) then Brad's. Our clothes take up more room in the hamper, so while it looks like there is a lot, there's usually not. Then I work on the kids' clothes b/c usually I have to sort out the stuff that doesn't fit anymore, which is time consuming.
Our dryer is broken so we usually can only wash 1 load per day and have to put those clothes away before there is room to do another load.