He's the one who has wanted to do couples counseling. I'm the one against it. For me personally, I've found counseling to be utter bs and not very helpful. Now I will say that if it helps others great, I just haven't found it helpful for me. He always leaves it up to me to make the appointments and I told him that if its that important for him, then I want him to make the appointment. Still waiting 4 years later.
when people notice, it's an automatic "yay!" or "eew, weirdo." and when it's the latter, i'm like "later."[/QUOTE]
+1 for awesomeness. :) I don't have vibrams (don't kill me, but I hate em), but I have other "weirdo markers" (cloth diapers anyone?) and "my people" can tell who I am, and if they think I'm weird, I don't want to waste my time anyway. :)
[QUOTE=Herbwifemama;327357] I don't have vibrams (don't kill me, but I hate em),[/QUOTE]
Amen. I don't think people who wear them are weird because I understand why they wear them. But I personally hate them. They're also the ugliest things I've ever seen - esp the new winter line.
[QUOTE=NourishedEm;327153]This is so true and the old stereotype of the man always trying to get sex from the reluctant, headache-faking woman is just that. In my experience, after the initial 2 weeks of mad sex at the start of a relationship, I always want it more often than my partner and I don't think I'm unusually frisky. I don't think wanting sex 3 or 4 times a week makes me a nymphomaniac, but you'd be surprised how often I've been made to feel that way!
Love the kakaking euphemisms too btw especially since my BF and I go out in his double kayak often (but not often enough for me if we are following the double-entendre :D)[/QUOTE]
+1 again! I have read so many self help books about sex, trying to figure out how to attract my guy, or get him to initiate, or something, and when it comes to women and sex, what they say is "men have a biological need for sex, give it to them" And I'm like, "I WOULD if I COULD!" :P I just tell dh to read the stuff about guys and sex and apply it to me. :)
FWIW, we do kayak, anytime between once a week and once every couple weeks, and it's always lots of fun for both of us. I think he's just worn out. I got a devoted, hardworkin man, and most of the time, he doesn't have the energy to kayak. But yeah, 3/x week kayaking would be great for me. :)
[QUOTE=bokbadok;327363]Amen. I don't think people who wear them are weird because I understand why they wear them. But I personally hate them. They're also the ugliest things I've ever seen - esp the new winter line.[/QUOTE]
I tried a pair on, and they were so uncomfortable, and as a bare-footer, I don't think they held my feet naturally at ALL. I'd sooner go with huraches that don't splay my toes out weirdly, or stick to my good old Isotoner slippers (that's right, I've been a bare-footer since WAY before it was cool! :))
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Hope this helps you and DH getting that canoe on course. PS) too late for me now, but I found out after starting on Tribulous Fuel that there is an inexpensive saliva test for measuring Testosterone. He can easily measure his testosterone before & after taking Tribulous Fuel. Google search, saliva testosterone test.
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I can't figure out who's payroll you're on, Grizz, but it's got to be somebody
I have been thinking about taking up kayaking, but now I am going to buy several! : )
[quote=Lao]I can't figure out who's payroll you're on, Grizz, but it's got to be somebody [/quote]
I am not on anyone's payroll. Why do you ask such a silly question? We are all here to help each other.
Thanks Grizz for the info. The husband is 36. He already told me that if he has to take viagra or any kind of supplement to help him out in regards to ED, then we just won't have sex. Which my reaction then was expect an open relationship then. I have no problems in the female area yet. I'm figuring if I do, I still have another 10 yrs to go.
We still do have sex and right now, he has no problem in that area other than me. It isn't like before he was diagnosed as a type 2 diabetic. He wants me all the time, I sort of want others. Now last night, I was actually turned on briefly by him and I haven't been turned on by him in about a yr. He's been working out, eating about 60% primally and lying in bed I rubbed my hand on his torso and I could actually feel his rib cage. In our 15 yrs together, I have never felt that on him. He's lost almost 4" in his waist which for him is pretty damn good.