Best wishes for finding a good plan for your son. I know a little of what that can be like, having watched my mom fight for my little brother's education (he has Down Syndrome) in the public school system. She ended up suing the schools & settling, and they paid for at least one year at a private school for kids with developmental disabilities. I never thought he would do well not in a mainstream classroom, as he seemed to fall behind in "special" classrooms when he was younger, but he's doing really well now.
Here's an update on my teacher friend whose wife was found dead a week and a half ago.
At first the local rag newspaper reported the death as suspicious and that she was "divorcing" her husband. I have known Scott for 15 years and in my heart, I knew there was no way it could have been him, but the community, police etc of course thought of him first. In the public eye, he was under suspicion until almost a week later when the police reported having interviewed Scott and that they were looking for "a person of interest". Yesterday an ex con from the area was arrested in NYC. He apparently strangled her, then drove her car to his residence and fled. She was 45, my age. No motive has been stated as yet. In the same article, the rag wrote that she was in the process of "getting a divorce". MFers.
Little do they know that Scott has been quietly posting pictures of his wife on his FB page. Until yesterday he left them unlabled. Last night under a picture of her on the beach looking out at the water, he wrote..."Goodbye Angel." He is paying for her funeral. We know that they were in financial difficulty, so we are making donations to help him. :(
:( that is very sad indeed.
oh so sad Paula!! I am glad though its resolved and he is cleared. I can not imagine his heartbreak though.
I know about the fine line as a teacher/parent when your kids special needs are not being met. I have a teacher I work with who is my sounding board. I will fire off an email to DD's teacher that is scathing and angry. I then delete the teachers name and send it to my friend and say "edit please." LOL She helps me put things more diplomatically as that teacher/parent. Hang in there. In the end, you will advocate for your child because its the best thing and the school understand that. They do not like to admit it, but they do.
Sorry to hear about your teacher friend and his wife. It's scary to think that this is starting to pop up in the smaller communities. Sending his family much needed prayers.
We got lucky with our schools in 2 areas. They recognized that Heather had an issue and worked with her and myself to correct it. They also found Tristan's problem and she and I corrected it and now she is in the top 5% of her class. Caitlyn, I have had to fight tooth and nail for and that is why we pulled her out and put her into K12 for 8th grade and she has flourished. She told me last night that she wants to go back to our school district for high school. I'm so hoping and praying that she doesn't revert back to the old ways as she has literally gone from a C-/D+ student to an B=/A- student. I'm hoping, that for her, she has realized that since she wants to become a detective, she has to have good grades for that. We got lucky that none of the girls were ever labeled 'special needs'. Heather was the closest due to her developmental delay, but she has outgrown it.
Those of you who are parents, I have nothing but tremendous respect. It has to be the hardest job in the world.
Hope you have a GREAT day, Paula.
I would think your husband's situation/perceived situation: nurse advocating at the hospital for relative leading to not being able to get a job at the hospital, would make him leery of: teacher advocating at school for relative. Maybe he as the 'neutral' parent should be doing the advocating.
What a rough situation for your co-worker. (And his poor wife, of course. But since she is now gone, it is easier to think of what he is going through.)
Oh! I came across this neat motivational tool, designed for writers, but I was thinking it would be great for dieters or people working on being binge-free.
The first day you write(or stay binge-free) you get 1 point. The next day, when you stick to your plan, you get another point, PLUS 2 points for being binge-free two days in a row. The third day, you get another point for being binge-free PLUS 3 points for doing three days in a row.
1 + (1+2) + (1 + 3) + (1 + 4) + (1 + 5) + (1 + 6) + (1 + 7) = 34(one 'perfect' week)
For the writing plan, you get 1 point for every page you write, so you can get more than one point for your effort But the real rewards come by stringing together consecutive days of the desired behavior. If you break your chain, you just start over. Your past points are NOT wiped out. For primals, I thought you could get extra points for exercise, and good sleep.
I, of course, immediately thought, 'what should I redeem my points on!?!' Three weeks of perfect behavior(snort) would be 251 points, so I thought 250 points might be good for a massage. I can get to that massage with 2 or 3 day spurts, but I'll get there quicker if I can make a habit.
I like this because it does still reward the singleton days. Those are important, too.
The good thing is that in this situation, my kids don't go to the same district in which I work. But, I have never been good a t confrontation or stepping on toes. It is better if I do the talking, because I have the cooler head.
One thing I have found is that there is a real need for patient advocates. Whether it is understanding billing, sorting out the myriad of meds or just helping the patient through the minefield that is healthcare. Is that something your DH might be interested in researching? For example, my mother's husband is on at least 15 different meds. Turns out he is being poisoned by the interactions of some of them. A patient advocate can review things like that to prevent this from happening. Even something as simple as helping someone to understand the hospital/insurance billing. It is a foreign language to the average person.
Just a thought.