I would think your husband's situation/perceived situation: nurse advocating at the hospital for relative leading to not being able to get a job at the hospital, would make him leery of: teacher advocating at school for relative. Maybe he as the 'neutral' parent should be doing the advocating.
What a rough situation for your co-worker. (And his poor wife, of course. But since she is now gone, it is easier to think of what he is going through.)
Oh! I came across this neat motivational tool, designed for writers, but I was thinking it would be great for dieters or people working on being binge-free.
The first day you write(or stay binge-free) you get 1 point. The next day, when you stick to your plan, you get another point, PLUS 2 points for being binge-free two days in a row. The third day, you get another point for being binge-free PLUS 3 points for doing three days in a row.
1 + (1+2) + (1 + 3) + (1 + 4) + (1 + 5) + (1 + 6) + (1 + 7) = 34(one 'perfect' week)
For the writing plan, you get 1 point for every page you write, so you can get more than one point for your effort But the real rewards come by stringing together consecutive days of the desired behavior. If you break your chain, you just start over. Your past points are NOT wiped out. For primals, I thought you could get extra points for exercise, and good sleep.
I, of course, immediately thought, 'what should I redeem my points on!?!' Three weeks of perfect behavior(snort) would be 251 points, so I thought 250 points might be good for a massage. I can get to that massage with 2 or 3 day spurts, but I'll get there quicker if I can make a habit.
I like this because it does still reward the singleton days. Those are important, too.
The good thing is that in this situation, my kids don't go to the same district in which I work. But, I have never been good a t confrontation or stepping on toes. It is better if I do the talking, because I have the cooler head.
One thing I have found is that there is a real need for patient advocates. Whether it is understanding billing, sorting out the myriad of meds or just helping the patient through the minefield that is healthcare. Is that something your DH might be interested in researching? For example, my mother's husband is on at least 15 different meds. Turns out he is being poisoned by the interactions of some of them. A patient advocate can review things like that to prevent this from happening. Even something as simple as helping someone to understand the hospital/insurance billing. It is a foreign language to the average person.
Just a thought.
Also, a lot health insurance carriers hire nurses to staff nurse lines for them. They make very good money at this. Some companies would even allow employees to work from home. Just a thought.
thats a great point geo. I know the insurance company we have has nurses. They call and check in with my mom periodically regarding her diabetes.
[QUOTE=athomeontherange;1092817]thats a great point geo. I know the insurance company we have has nurses. They call and check in with my mom periodically regarding her diabetes.[/QUOTE]
My husband's insurance has nurses too. They checked in with me regarding my depression and weight loss plans for quite a while until I quit the program b/c they didn't agree with my method of diet (primal). I think patient advocate would be a good one for your husband given his "fighting spirit". But neither job is actually working on patients, which I'm sure is what he wishes to do.
parent advocating for children's education is so very difficult. I am so glad we have made it through that mine field. Both of my children have reading learning disabilities (which luckily their amazing brains learned to compensate for, after a year each of tutoring) and I actually had an advocate from the school ask me what I wanted done for them, they were making straight A's. My response was basically that the fact that you have low expectations and my children reach them does not mean that my children are reaching their potential. As luck would have it, both of their teachers were in on the conference and met with me later to help me help them (one of them actually had a master's degree that specialized in reading learning disabilities.). I am with you in spirit.
[B]To post or not to post[/B]...that is the question. Whether tis nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of admitting to yet another outrageous binge, or to take up arms against a sea of troubles alone...(At this point Hamlet starts rambling about killing himself. So not going there.)
I truly wanted to stay silent today, or lie, but I have never been able to do that here.:)
I did great yesterday ate clean and under 1600 cals, drank 100oz of water, cut coffee consumption in half. Last night my husband made dinner late. It wasn't ready until 7:30. I was ravenous. I ate it and was unsatisfied. My husband went into the shower and in seconds, without thinking, I was stuffing my face. This morning I woke up wanting cereal, so I had some. I had to wait for a ride at Dunkin Donuts, so I had a valentine's day donut there too. I feel finished and will try to eat well the rest of the day. Lots of stress and sadness and nowhere to put it.
Funny though, right now I am in a really good mood and feel fine. Except for being annoyed with myself and having no solution to most of my problems.
[QUOTE=Pebbles67;1093941]Except for being annoyed with myself and having no solution to most of my problems.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, that is called life and often it sucks. If a donut is the worst you do to yourself because of it, well, you are doing fine. This is especially true in that you are owning up to it, facing it, and saying, "Eh, f' you donut, you don't control me." All in all I would call that a win and a definite improvement from a few months back.