[QUOTE=Pebbles67;997869]***I added and addendum to this morning's post in case anyone is interested. The post will exist for a limited time only due to the nature of the content.[/QUOTE]
Hugs P. I hope things get better and that <name redacted> starts doing the right thing.
As for the rest, well, today just became a better day to be a security guard. :D
Internet hugs. Nothing helpful to say. Any chance hubby would consider couples counselling? Might be good to have a neutral space to discuss things, where he might be more inclined to keep his cool.
[QUOTE=canio6;997880]Hugs P. I hope things get better and that <name redacted> starts doing the right thing.
As for the rest, well, today just became a better day to be a security guard. :D[/QUOTE]
Well, sadly you live nowhere near me, so I had to go with my second choice.
Couples counseling may be possible, when we get more financially stable.
[QUOTE=Pebbles67;997894]Well, sadly you live nowhere near me, so I had to go with my second choice.[/QUOTE]
That's very kind of you to say. No matter what happens I hope you are very happy.
I am afraid I have nothing to add, I am sad that that is true, but feel certain nothing I could possibly say would help you out. I do wish you the very best, I am heartbroken that it is not currently with the hubs, but hope it will turn around soon. In the mean time, flirtations help to keep you feeling human/attractive/sexy not sure taking it further would do the same.
Any chance there is a minister or some such that could help out? I recently saw this article (I like this blog, lots of interesting stuff) it might help in the interim [url=http://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/08/diy-marriage-counseling/]Free Marriage Counseling: How to Do it Yourself | The Art of Manliness[/url]
Sorry about your hubby troubles. Couples therapy would be a great option. Maybe writing him a note so that you could get across your point and not be mad or pressured while you do it. Another option I would take would be to stop allowing bread and other wheat products in the house. If you know that they effect him and he wants to blame you then let him be mad at you for making him healthier. Sure the kids will throw a fit but they will find plenty of crap to eat outside the house (at least my kids do). This may cause the family to call you a food nazi (mine does or atleast used to) but we are all healthier for it. Sending hugs your way as this real life crap is never fun.
[QUOTE=Mud Flinger;997921]Another option I would take would be to stop allowing bread and other wheat products in the house. [/QUOTE]
I would find a more diplomatic way to phrase this. Speaking as a grown ass man, no one disallows me to do anything in my house whether that be eating bread or what have you. Now, I can be made to see reason if approached the right way but if my wife were to say, "I am not allowing bread into the house," I would ask her where she is moving. (and I don't even eat bread. It is the principle of it)
(and to be fair, I would never tell my wife, "No more diet coke is allowed in this house" etc. Ultimatums do not good communication make.)
Pebbles, you are very brave to post this, and I think that saying it out loud (well, posting it, you know what I mean) will help you resist doing anything against your values.
It is completely normal to be attracted to good looking people who are nice to you. And to have struggles even with people you love who are NOT. I think acknowledging the temptation will make it easier to avoid it than trying to pretend you aren't tempted.
I won't address your husband situation, because you know what's what, and even when you are furious with them, it is another thing entirely to have someone else criticize Your Man (we humans are funny, aren't we?). But I will say: "Grrrr."
On practical matters, do you do the grocery shopping? If so, you could just stop buying bread, etc. If he wants it that badly, have him get it himself.
Just let me know if you ever need me to delete something from this (or any other) post in your journal.
Hugs to you, friend. You know we are all thinking of you. (And in the case of canio, in exciting ways!) :)