In addition, reading anything by David Deida about opening and trust, like [url=http://www.amazon.com/Dear-Lover-Womans-Guide-Deepest/dp/1591792606/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1383041341&sr=1-1&keywords=dear+lover]Dear Lover: A Woman's Guide To Men, Sex, And Love's Deepest Bliss: David Deida: 9781591792604: Amazon.com: Books[/url] has been super duper helpful for me.
From all I've researched, a combo of food, supplements and physical practice can help this. From practicing kegels, working on masturbation in different ways to become more flexible (the hardest thing for me) and then finding a partner that you really, really, really trust has been super helpful for me. Feel free to write to me if you wanna talk more! Good luck!
Hey! Saw your thread on sex and thought I'd send you a few links. This is an issue I've always struggled with, and I'm still working on it, but I've read just about every book on the O topic. The BEST resources I've found are The Orgasmic Diet: [url=http://www.amazon.com/The-Orgasmic-Diet-Revolutionary-Libido/dp/0307353435]The Orgasmic Diet: A Revolutionary Plan to Lift Your Libido and Bring You to Orgasm: Marrena Lindberg: 9780307353436: Amazon.com: Books[/url] and this older book, How tro Have an Orgasm as often as you Want: [url=http://www.amazon.com/Have-Orgasm-Often-Want-Life-Changing/dp/1569243824]How to Have an Orgasm . . . As Often As You Want: Life-Changing Sexual Secrets for Women and Their Partners: Rachel Swift: 9781569243824: Amazon.com: Books[/url]