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  • #76
    I have my own issues as well, and I'm sure there are a lot of issues he deals with. Like I'm noticing that as he gets more comfortable with me his O improves...yet after our first spat I tried to see if I could get some angry sex and he couldn't perform. That tells me right off bat that it's not all physical.

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    • #77
      Liftinglife- earlier you mentioned asking for a 3some and getting a nil response. Keep asking! The first time I asked I got shut down pretty quick, and I had not mentioned again until recently. This time I got a maybe. Then he did some research on his own about how to make it go well and not wreck our marriage. That's huge progress! I don't think it will happen right away but now it's in his mind and next time it may be him who brings it up (best case scenario). I also had wanted to sell my worn thongs on craigslist (don't ask, there's a market, I'm curious about the easy $$) and at first he was shocked and I've now mentioned it 3-4 times and he finally said yeah go for it. So if you don't get what you want at first, keep asking. It may take some time for an idea to grow on him.

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      • #78
        Ok, might as well add something other than a stupid comment.

        To the OP, someone else mentioned sex is very much a mental activity as much as a physical activity. If one is not completely enjoying it, there are a couple of possibilities. One could be medications. Some affect that area of life in a significant way. Another possibility is a physical issue or condition. If it is not one of those, it must be something psychological. If so, it's not like a light switch that can be flipped and it be all better but if both parties are on the same page, it can be solved. Maybe a little hinting early in the day about what is going to happen later, or a surprise blindfold, or something that creates the heightened mood. Partners can be really frustrated as you or someone else mentioned because they will think it is a technique thing. It probably isnt, just need to build up to the right frame of mind. Trust has to exist for it to happen without pressure.

        And to the vanilla boyfriend situation, could be a physical or psychological issue or could be taking care of himself too much when you arent around?? Just throwing that out there. Sometimes guys just watch too much porn and real life ends up not being as exciting. And between you and moluv, I cant get anything done at the office today. Imagination running wild.

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        • #79
          Originally posted by RichMahogany View Post
          Starting to sound that way for sure. What a waste of quality tail.
          Lol ☺️

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          • #80
            On to the real topic...

            My first gf was an on top O-girl. I didn't realize at the time but she squirted a little. We didn't have a condom (stupid kids) so I was pulling out cause I was close and woosh. In the back of my head I was thinking, "wait that wasn't me". No biggie, cleaned up and got back to it. There had been some negative events in her past so I think the control helped and I had no issues with that. We weren't together a long time so not sure if the O's would have come in other situations after a while.

            Now my wife on the other hand is good to go with the O's. I'm no superstar so I'm more than happy to put in the extra work to get the job done. Just because I can only go once there's no reason she shouldn't get the chance to before, during, and after.

            Oh, and toys... use them.
            Last edited by Kegas76; 10-28-2013, 09:02 AM.

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            • #81
              Originally posted by moluv View Post
              Liftinglife- earlier you mentioned asking for a 3some and getting a nil response. Keep asking! The first time I asked I got shut down pretty quick, and I had not mentioned again until recently. This time I got a maybe. Then he did some research on his own about how to make it go well and not wreck our marriage. That's huge progress! I don't think it will happen right away but now it's in his mind and next time it may be him who brings it up (best case scenario). I also had wanted to sell my worn thongs on craigslist (don't ask, there's a market, I'm curious about the easy $$) and at first he was shocked and I've now mentioned it 3-4 times and he finally said yeah go for it. So if you don't get what you want at first, keep asking. It may take some time for an idea to grow on him.
              Thanks I think your right, I'm going to take your advice on this one. It can't hurt to plant the seed, water the seed, and watch it grow 😉
              Also, old thongs?!? Really? Lol interesting.

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              • #82
                Originally posted by darylb View Post
                Ok, might as well add something other than a stupid comment.

                To the OP, someone else mentioned sex is very much a mental activity as much as a physical activity. If one is not completely enjoying it, there are a couple of possibilities. One could be medications. Some affect that area of life in a significant way. Another possibility is a physical issue or condition. If it is not one of those, it must be something psychological. If so, it's not like a light switch that can be flipped and it be all better but if both parties are on the same page, it can be solved. Maybe a little hinting early in the day about what is going to happen later, or a surprise blindfold, or something that creates the heightened mood. Partners can be really frustrated as you or someone else mentioned because they will think it is a technique thing. It probably isnt, just need to build up to the right frame of mind. Trust has to exist for it to happen without pressure.

                And to the vanilla boyfriend situation, could be a physical or psychological issue or could be taking care of himself too much when you arent around?? Just throwing that out there. Sometimes guys just watch too much porn and real life ends up not being as exciting. And between you and moluv, I cant get anything done at the office today. Imagination running wild.
                I have thought about this and asked him to quit slapping his own ham and save the cream for me, I told him it really turns me on to watch it come out and I love it in my face and in my mouth.... And as far as I know he is resisting, and like I said I see improvement so I believe him.

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                • #83
                  Originally posted by Liftinglife View Post
                  I have thought about this and asked him to quit slapping his own ham and save the cream for me, I told him it really turns me on to watch it come out and I love it in my face and in my mouth.... And as far as I know he is resisting, and like I said I see improvement so I believe him.


                  You are absolutely killing me.

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                  • #84
                    I have brought three girls to o for their first time(not at once...that would be fun). Its always been the same position. Me on my back with legs bent so it is pointing back at me. Girl on top and laying on my chest. Right hand stimulating the clitoris, left hand being used for breast, butt, hair neck etc....Because the girls hips are free and she doesnt have to worry about holding herself up, the girl has the ability to rest and enjoy or frenzy as she sees fit. It also allows for multi, because after number 1 she can rest for as long as long as she likes, until number 2 starts building.

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                    • #85
                      Originally posted by Liftinglife View Post
                      save the cream for me, I told him it really turns me on to watch it come out and I love it in my face and in my mouth
                      yeah... it's good for your skin. at least that's what I told women for years...

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                      • #86
                        I think my input has taken over this thread, sorry :/ hope I don't get is shit down

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                        • #87
                          Originally posted by Liftinglife View Post
                          I think my input has taken over this thread, sorry :/ hope I don't get is shit down
                          Any more Freudian slips like that and you just might.
                          I find your lack of bacon disturbing.

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                          • #88
                            Haha, I think the topic is fine, but the text is getting too explicit. I hate that we have to stick to euphemisms and not get too specific...but that's probably the only way the admins will let this survive.
                            Depression Lies

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                            • #89
                              Originally posted by Blacksmith View Post
                              Any more Freudian slips like that and you just might.
                              Whoops!!!!! I meant to say "get us shut down" lmao

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                              • #90
                                Originally posted by namelesswonder View Post
                                Haha, I think the topic is fine, but the text is getting too explicit. I hate that we have to stick to euphemisms and not get too specific...but that's probably the only way the admins will let this survive.
                                amen to that. euphemisms only. it would be a shame to get this thread shut down

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