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  • #31
    Don't discount the younger men. I thought no way in heck I would date a younger man but I gave it a try. He ended up being very smart and mature. Sometimes too mature. I ended up married to a 70 year old man trapped in a very hot 28 year old's body. I am 36.

    I also vote for comfortable, but neat looking, and something that makes you feel confident. I wore skinny jeans, tall boots (it was winter) and a long but tailored sweater, a necklace and a cute beret hat. Seemed to work

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    • #32
      Originally posted by RichMahogany View Post
      I'm 31 as well, and I've been dating older women almost exclusively for the past 4 years. I find women in their mid-late 30's to be less clingy, more realistic in their expectations, and more libidoistically compatible and sexually comfortable with themselves. Obviously it becomes more important that they've made good choices with regards to taking care of themselves, but that's important to me anyway. So I +1 your manfriend's choice.
      Does that mean I'm too young for you then? DAMN

      (I'm nearly 32? )
      "I think the basic anti-aging diet is also the best diet for prevention and treatment of diabetes, scleroderma, and the various "connective tissue diseases." This would emphasize high protein, low unsaturated fats, low iron, and high antioxidant consumption, with a moderate or low starch consumption.

      In practice, this means that a major part of the diet should be milk, cheese, eggs, shellfish, fruits and coconut oil, with vitamin E and salt as the safest supplements."

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      • #33
        To the OP

        I like a woman that shows confidence without desperation. Usually this means something that shows SHAPE, but not SKIN. Strippers show skin.

        Also for me, on a FIRST date, I wouldn't go with jeans. They are often pretty masculine looking on all but the most shapely women. If one is trying to impress, I cannot imagine jeans doing it better than a dress or dress pants.

        Lastly, no cleavage. That reeks of trashiness to me as a first impression. Wear something skin tight over something with the top half of your mountain range flying around Good luck.
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        • #34
          Originally posted by RichMahogany View Post
          Yes yes yes and yes. Please and yes. And yes.



          I'm 31 as well, and I've been dating older women almost exclusively for the past 4 years. I find women in their mid-late 30's to be less clingy, more realistic in their expectations, and more libidoistically compatible and sexually comfortable with themselves. Obviously it becomes more important that they've made good choices with regards to taking care of themselves, but that's important to me anyway. So I +1 your manfriend's choice.
          Hmmmm.....here I though I was too old for you. Maybe not
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          • #35
            Originally posted by turquoisepassion View Post
            I'm not a dude, but I worked as a stylist so I got this question a lot.

            Always wear an old favorite (not too trendy, something classic) rather than a new dress/outfit. You need to troubleshoot your outfit (ie. if it rides up constantly, if there is tons of static, if it wrinkles easily, etc. etc.) before a date.

            I always wear a t-shirt dress that's kind of clingy, one piece of jewelry, and heels (unless we are walking a ton...in which case some cute oxfords). Simple, not FASHUN, but you made an effort.

            Hair down.
            spoken like a true stylistdid you work as a stylist in ny, austin, or both? i do some styling on the side. unfortunately, most of my clients are plain bagels and kind of blah.

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            • #36
              Is it a sitting down or a standing/moving date? Comfy, but stylish, shoes will ensure that you're not tottering or hobbling around. I'm a skirt/dress girl and therefore that's what I would wear on a date. Echo what others have said - don't wear something out of your usual style range, aim for comfort rather than discomfort - tugging at your clothes is not attractive. Style rather than sexiness. Understated rather than underdressed.
              Good luck and let us know how it goes!
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              • #37
                Originally posted by ginafirenze View Post
                spoken like a true stylistdid you work as a stylist in ny, austin, or both? i do some styling on the side. unfortunately, most of my clients are plain bagels and kind of blah.
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                • #38
                  Originally posted by PrimalPumpkin View Post
                  Don't discount the younger men. I thought no way in heck I would date a younger man but I gave it a try. He ended up being very smart and mature. Sometimes too mature. I ended up married to a 70 year old man trapped in a very hot 28 year old's body. I am 36.
                  Hahahaha! That is awesome. Well, I guess kinda sad in some ways. But just the mental image of an old man in a young dude's body.

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                  • #39
                    Figured I should update-- I ended up wearing a sleeveless purple dress with sandals and my hair down. No idea what he thought of my outfit, but the date went great! Definite non-douche! Thank goodness.

                    I think I should clarify that it's not that I'm attracted to dbags, it's that a) I seem to attract/encourage them, and b) people I know set me up with them a lot. They go, "oh, I know this guy at my office who works out! You work out! It's a great match!"

                    I've been going on pretty much exclusively first dates all year. Because I know within ten seconds if the guy is going to be able to converse at the level I need, or if he's going to have opinions that are going to make me want to punch him. (I once had a date who said he was a really big Civil War buff--which, cool, I'm into history as well--and then went on to "teach" me very condescendingly about how the whole thing could have been avoided if Lincoln had just bought all the slaves from the South and set them free. And this was one of the smarter first dates I've had.)

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                    • #40
                      Originally posted by Mr. Anthony View Post
                      Edited!

                      Sorry; totally kidding, Magnolia, Diene, turquoisepassion, other forum crushes...I'm forum-monogamous to all of you...
                      That's okay. I don't believe in monogamy anymore anyway.

                      Originally posted by YogaBare View Post
                      Leggings / skirt, flats, funky top. Make sure you're comfortable.

                      Two words: martial arts! I think it attracts a really interesting kind of man... Fit, yet sensitive / spiritual in their own way.
                      Lol! When I saw this, I thought, you mean like RichMahogany?

                      And then I saw this:

                      Originally posted by YogaBare View Post
                      Does that mean I'm too young for you then? DAMN

                      (I'm nearly 32? )
                      Originally posted by Jefferson1775 View Post
                      I agree with you on this. I'm a country boy, so seeing a good-looking girl in some boots and jeans does something for me. There was this one time, though, where I saw a girl wearing a "Guns Save Lives" t-shirt. I knew right then that I wanted to talk to her, but she was already jogging away.
                      Aw, you should have run after her!


                      Originally posted by heatseeker View Post
                      Figured I should update-- I ended up wearing a sleeveless purple dress with sandals and my hair down. No idea what he thought of my outfit, but the date went great! Definite non-douche! Thank goodness.

                      I think I should clarify that it's not that I'm attracted to dbags, it's that a) I seem to attract/encourage them, and b) people I know set me up with them a lot. They go, "oh, I know this guy at my office who works out! You work out! It's a great match!"

                      I've been going on pretty much exclusively first dates all year. Because I know within ten seconds if the guy is going to be able to converse at the level I need, or if he's going to have opinions that are going to make me want to punch him. (I once had a date who said he was a really big Civil War buff--which, cool, I'm into history as well--and then went on to "teach" me very condescendingly about how the whole thing could have been avoided if Lincoln had just bought all the slaves from the South and set them free. And this was one of the smarter first dates I've had.)
                      I'm sure you looked amazing in the purple dress!

                      Lol, re the Civil War guy. Maybe that's why I have such a hard time dating normal people. Usually, within the first three dates, I would bring up the fact that the Civil War could have been avoided if the North had just allowed the South to secede. And I would then give a long-winded explanation of how slavery would not have been economically feasible in the absence of the Fugitive Slave Clause (in the Constitution, yeah) and the Fugitive Slave Act, which was passed later on. Thus, had the North allowed the South to secede, the Northern states would not longer be required to return escaped slaves to the South, and slavery would not have been sustainable for long in the South. By the time I'm done, their eyes would have glazed over, or they would argue that Lincoln needed to preserve the Union. I'm sure a lot of them secretly wanted to punch me too.

                      Edited to add: For further information on the above topic (regarding the economic sustainability of slavery), I recommend the following book by Jeff Hummel: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg...52931?v=glance
                      Last edited by diene; 09-11-2013, 06:34 AM.

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                      • #41
                        Originally posted by YogaBare View Post
                        Does that mean I'm too young for you then? DAMN

                        (I'm nearly 32? )
                        Hey, sometimes I buy a green banana with the knowledge that it'll be ripe soon enough. Don't count yourself out just yet.

                        Originally posted by jammies View Post
                        Hmmmm.....here I though I was too old for you. Maybe not
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                        • #42
                          Originally posted by heatseeker View Post
                          Figured I should update-- I ended up wearing a sleeveless purple dress with sandals and my hair down. No idea what he thought of my outfit, but the date went great! Definite non-douche! Thank goodness.

                          I think I should clarify that it's not that I'm attracted to dbags, it's that a) I seem to attract/encourage them, and b) people I know set me up with them a lot. They go, "oh, I know this guy at my office who works out! You work out! It's a great match!"

                          I've been going on pretty much exclusively first dates all year. Because I know within ten seconds if the guy is going to be able to converse at the level I need, or if he's going to have opinions that are going to make me want to punch him. (I once had a date who said he was a really big Civil War buff--which, cool, I'm into history as well--and then went on to "teach" me very condescendingly about how the whole thing could have been avoided if Lincoln had just bought all the slaves from the South and set them free. And this was one of the smarter first dates I've had.)
                          Awwwww ;(

                          I once had a date with a guy who PRETENDED he was a doctor. I started talking biochem and... Well. That was that.
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                          HCLF: lean red meat, eggs, low-fat dairy, bone broth/gelatin, fruits, seafood, liver, small amount of starch (oatmeal, white rice, potatoes, carrots), small amount of saturated fat (butter/ghee/coconut/dark chocolate/cheese).

                          My Journal: gelatin experiments, vanity pictures, law school rants, recipe links


                          Food blog: GELATIN and BONE BROTH recipes

                          " The best things in life are free and the 2nd best are expensive!" - Coco Chanel

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                          • #43
                            Glad your date went well!

                            M.

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                            • #44
                              Originally posted by PrimalPumpkin View Post
                              Don't discount the younger men. I thought no way in heck I would date a younger man but I gave it a try. He ended up being very smart and mature. Sometimes too mature. I ended up married to a 70 year old man trapped in a very hot 28 year old's body. I am 36.
                              I like the older ones. My BF is 62. I'm 48. I just went backpacking for 2 weeks and the youngest guy in our group was 60, the oldest 63. At one point I turned to the 63-year old in our group and told him, "Yoshi, you are like a giant boy!" Because he was like an 11-year-old trapped inside a 63-year-old's body (a body that actually seemed stronger and younger than a lot of 22-year-old's.) In fact, all of them are like big giant boys, really. Immature, silly, needing someone to wipe their mouths with a napkin now and then.

                              Originally posted by heatseeker View Post
                              Figured I should update-- I ended up wearing a sleeveless purple dress with sandals and my hair down. No idea what he thought of my outfit, but the date went great! Definite non-douche! Thank goodness.
                              Congratulations on the date! I can't remember the last time when I've ever just gone on a date, but I do remember how nerve-wracking it is. Glad it worked out well.
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                              • #45
                                Glad it went well Heatseeker!

                                Originally posted by diene View Post

                                Lol! When I saw this, I thought, you mean like RichMahogany?
                                Well well. It would appear that me and RM are meant to be! He does martial arts, I already dress the way he likes, and we hang out in the same places. I'm willing to forgo the beard and his questionable diet if he can accept my age. We all have to make compromises.
                                "I think the basic anti-aging diet is also the best diet for prevention and treatment of diabetes, scleroderma, and the various "connective tissue diseases." This would emphasize high protein, low unsaturated fats, low iron, and high antioxidant consumption, with a moderate or low starch consumption.

                                In practice, this means that a major part of the diet should be milk, cheese, eggs, shellfish, fruits and coconut oil, with vitamin E and salt as the safest supplements."

                                - Ray Peat

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