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  • #16
    I would never have joined a sorority, but if I had been so inclined, I think I'd try to get first hand accounts of the sorority life on the campus before joining. Drinking was never a real interest of mine and I would have been really unhappy in a party-based sorority. Community events, fund raising, and excursions would have been more appealing and REALLY beneficial for me (was not terribly social for the first couple of years in college).

    But seriously, do put your academics first. That's kind of what you're going to school for, yes? Well, that and making connections. I worked a part-time job on campus almost the whole time I was in school, just minus one semester. For me, I ultimately ended up putting more work into my job because it was easier. This served me well since it ended up being my profession (studied English, now in the IT field).
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    • #17
      My whole thing is: I had plenty of great friends in college, and didn't have to pay to get them. We had TONS of crazy adventures, and some of my funniest stories to this day came from that era.

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      • #18
        I'll give the classic legal answer. It depends. Although I was not in the Greek community, and it was (ahem) a long time ago when I would have been, many of my friends and family members were. FWIW, the women had more positive experiences than the men. Part of the primal lifestyle, apart from food and exercise which get a lot of the attention, is about social connections and play, both aspects that a sorority can nurture. I don't have the PB in front of me but I believe some of the 10 rules could be more readily achieved in a Greek setting although of course they could be achieved outside of it too.

        Why it ultimately depends though has much to do on individual circumstances, e.g., do you bond with the members during rush, would it help you with a place to live etc. In my experience, the peer pressure to do certain behaviours (drinking mainly) has greatly diminished in the past several years with the prevelance of law suits and liability discouraging such behaviour coming from the national offices of such organizations. Also, joining a sorority (except perhaps in extreme cases) does not mean you have to 100% commit yourself to it. It's kind of like a church in that way. Nothing wrong with still not living there and selectively doing certain events unless of course you are joining a more cultish like one but I would steer away from that.

        While you do pay to be in a sorority, it comes, potentially, with a place to live and eat. At least where I went to school (in a big city where housing was expensive), I think it was actually cheaper to live in a house but if they don't have houses where you are, it does not matter.

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        • #19
          If you're talking about a sorority in whose house you would live, don't forget to take into account the eating situation. If they provide you with food, does that mean you won't be able to eat their food and will have to prepare all your own meals separately?

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          • #20
            It depends on what you want. My friend was in a sorority as she went to a small college and almost everyone was in a sorority. She made many close friends and I think it was a great thing in her life. I went to a big university and was not in a sorority. It did not prevent me from not having a good time and making friends. Some of the girls in my program who joined sororities had to drop out due to time constraints (my major was time intense- you can't fake design projects).

            If you are not in a sorority, I guess you miss out on whatever the hell special things sororities do. If you want to be in a sorority to do those things, then join. If you want to join a sorority to go to frat parties and meet guys, well, you don't have to be in one to do that. If you want to enjoy living with a bunch of women, the dorms work. I know some sororities make you live in the house and to be honest.... after 2 years of living with a bunch of women, I was willing to live in a shithole of an apartment with crack smoking neighbors to get away from that. If I had to spend one more month with that bullshit, I'd have killed someone.

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            • #21
              is kind of in the same vein as what Grokette might have done with her fellow ladies back in the day -- mellow activities like braiding each other's hair, relaxing together, etc.
              Oh, and I had friends like that without being in a sorority. I hung out with the girls in my major, ones on the equestrian team etc. I think if you don't have a house, it is probably a lot less intense and more like an activity than a lifestyle.

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              • #22
                Yeah I can't believe that people think they need to join a club to participate in human society and express normal social urges. Everyone on campus wants friends and to have fun.
                "Ah, those endless forests, and their horror-haunted gloom! For what eternities have I wandered through them, a timid, hunted creature, starting at the least sound, frightened of my own shadow, keyed-up, ever alert and vigilant, ready on the instant to dash away in mad flight for my life. For I was the prey of all manner of fierce life that dwelt in the forest, and it was in ecstasies of fear that I fled before the hunting monsters."

                Jack london, "Before Adam"

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                • #23
                  Yeah, just join a club. Or start one! I started several clubs back in college and it got a lot of people being friends, to this day. A few couples even met directly because of or indirectly because of those clubs.

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                  • #24
                    Originally posted by RichMahogany View Post
                    Translation: Joanie was a huge party girl and she turned out okay, so you probably will too.
                    *chuckle* Actually the school I attended was so politically correct that we didn't have fraternities and sororities. Just clubs. We used to call them "fra-rorities." I joined the accounting one, paid my dues, was asked to sell donuts, walked away, and filed to get my dues back due to financial hardship. LOL

                    But that doesn't mean that I don't see the merit. And the silliness.
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                    • #25
                      When I was in college, I lived in a co-op. It was way better than the Greek system. First, it was co-ed. Second, the people were less annoying than those who were attracted to the Greek system. We used to have these outings during which we dressed up like sorority girls/frat boys and went to their parties just to mock them.

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                      • #26
                        I don't know anything about them, but in theory, I think they're good. Where are you going to college? You should invite me to one of your all-girl slumber parties.

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                        • #27
                          it's a little known secret that sorority girls frequently have slumber parties and pillow fights in lacy underwear
                          beautiful
                          yeah you are

                          Baby if you time travel back far enough you can avoid that work because the dust won't be there. You're too pretty to be working that hard.
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                          • #28
                            Originally posted by bloodorchid View Post
                            it's a little known secret that sorority girls frequently have slumber parties and pillow fights in lacy underwear
                            Really? Tell me more...

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                            • #29
                              all those pornos that start out with lingerie pillow fights? based on real life
                              beautiful
                              yeah you are

                              Baby if you time travel back far enough you can avoid that work because the dust won't be there. You're too pretty to be working that hard.
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                              • #30
                                Originally posted by Mr.Perfidy View Post
                                are you seriously going to take the position that greek life is not a cult of the beer god?
                                I do think it's possible to be discriminate about which activities to partake in (beer-inhaling culture included). I haven't really let my views about Greek life be tainted by the way it's vapidly depicted in movies.

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